Hey there! We are a relatively large but tight-knit community of 700. This server has one main goal: Be as stable as a singleplayer world. What does this mean? Well, this means that you will never suffer a reset or catastrophic loss in the safe zone. Your progress is COMPLETELY safe unless you break the rules (we don't have any ambiguous rules like "use common sense" and only ban for rules stated in our very short and understandable rules list!) and protected by many contingencies, you could play here until the day I die!
Now onto other things,
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Our vanilla+ modpack with many performance optimisers ensures you wont have any client-side lag. Server-side, we have 16 gigs of ram + dedicated processor cores up to 4.8 GHz and featuring 4 vCores of a Ryzen 9 5950X CPU.
WANT BLOODSHED? WANT PEACE AND LOVE? HAVE BOTH!
We have a never-before-seen system of a Safezone and Borderland; there's an (expanding once full with builds) 3k block radius around spawn where stealing, griefing and murder are not allowed. Outside, they are. There are incentives to go into the borderlands, such as more structures, more unmanned ores and (coming soon) special effects in the borderlands!
ALWAYS SOMETHING TO DO! NEVER GET BORED!
We have a very special mod, the Origins mod! Along with the 9 base origins, we have roughly 80 custom origins, all carefully reviewed so that we can make sure each one is balanced, unique and well designed! You can even suggest custom origins, but due to the fact we want you and everyone else to have fun with their origin, it'll have to be quite high quality. Whenever you get bored, just pick another origin and maybe run away somewhere far with no items to get a fresh experience! Of course, if you don't like this mod, or don't like your current origin, you can always pick Human or use your free two changes/craft an origin change.

Here's the server invite!: https://discord.gg/fkgXwWfpta

Hey there! We are a relatively large but tight-knit community of 700. This server has one main goal: Be as stable as a singleplayer world. What does this mean? Well, this means that you will never suffer a reset or catastrophic loss in the safe zone. Your progress is COMPLETELY safe unless you break the rules (we don't have any ambiguous rules like "use common sense" and only ban for rules stated in our very short and understandable rules list!) and protected by many contingencies, you could play here until the day I die!
Now onto other things,
0 LAG!
Our vanilla+ modpack with many performance optimisers ensures you wont have any client-side lag. Server-side, we have 16 gigs of ram + dedicated processor cores up to 4.8 GHz and featuring 4 vCores of a Ryzen 9 5950X CPU.
WANT BLOODSHED? WANT PEACE AND LOVE? HAVE BOTH!
We have a never-before-seen system of a Safezone and Borderland; there's an (expanding once full with builds) 3k block radius around spawn where stealing, griefing and murder are not allowed. Outside, they are. There are incentives to go into the borderlands, such as more structures, more unmanned ores and (coming soon) special effects in the borderlands!
ALWAYS SOMETHING TO DO! NEVER GET BORED!
We have a very special mod, the Origins mod! Along with the 9 base origins, we have roughly 80 custom origins, all carefully reviewed so that we can make sure each one is balanced, unique and well designed! You can even suggest custom origins, but due to the fact we want you and everyone else to have fun with their origin, it'll have to be quite high quality. Whenever you get bored, just pick another origin and maybe run away somewhere far with no items to get a fresh experience! Of course, if you don't like this mod, or don't like your current origin, you can always pick Human or use your free two changes/craft an origin change.

Here's the server invite!: https://discord.gg/fkgXwWfpta

sorry for the long text, I needed to vent
TLDR: I'm mad in love with my gf but I need to leave her but I don't want to and I can't. I feel trapped and she can't see her toxicity. I'd rather kill myself or go to the psych ward than break up with her. she has an absurd amount of men after her and they're probably wishing my worst. I don't wanna see her with someone else. I won't find another girl, let alone one like her. I want another goth girlfriend. I felt miserable before her and I'll feel worse without her.
I know what I have to do but I don't want to nor can I. before we started dating I knew what I was getting myself into, I knew it wouldn't last but I gave her a chance. part of the reason I did that is because I'm an adult that has never experienced love, only heart breaks, manipulation, rejection and fear of trying. the other part is because I was genuinely into her and she ticks all the traits I could ask for a girl, but as everything in my life, no happiness comes without consequences, no happiness comes without deception or failure later. no happiness lasts.
it's my first time dating (we're long distance), I'm a virgin, never kissed anyone, never held hands, never went out on a date, never had my feelings reciprocated, and I'm not even ugly or toxic, I'm just shy and introverted, depressed and socially anxious and I guess my standards are too alien for my generation. I don't like meaningless hookups, I didn't and wouldn't kiss someone I don't love, if I'm gonna have anything with a girl I need to meet her first and have her reciprocate me. now imagine a failure of a person like this, depressed because he is lonely and barely interacts with girls, and then suddenly a girl pops up in his life and shows interest and treats him like no other person has and makes him feel like a human again. would you blame me? I don't. I knew she wasn't the ideal person for me because she's toxic and has a lot of issues that can't be dealt with, she's the impersonation of mess. I knew I shouldn't ignore her dozens of red flags but love is my weakness. nothing good could've come out of it but I'm also a mess of a person and I can't say no to a girl that looks like a legendary card of 1 in a trillion lives (I'm not white so finding a goth girl that wants to date me is hard, I doubt that will happen again).
she's probably narcissistic or very close to it but she's very clingy and dependent on me, she chases me every day, I'm clingy too but not that much so I find this attractive. the problem with her is that she doesn't listen to me and she doesn't understand me, she thinks I don't understand her. I've always supported her when she was down or having a breakdown, you could say we were love bombing each other, but I don't have toxic intentions. she's insensitive with my feelings and she tries to excuse that because she's a sociopath. I never wanted to help someone so much and she does this to me. yesterday I was at my lowest, I cut myself and told her, she threatened to break up with me if I do it again (bluff) and I told her I never treated her like this and was respectful with her when she talked about her problems and when it's me she sees it as overreacting. every time I say something like "why are you doing this to me, I didn't do this to you" and "why are you mad at me for doing the same you did" she says she's different, as if my issues are meaningless compared to hers. I was trying to drag this relationship as far as I could, I was feeling bad frequently but she also made me feel good and special, it's manageable for me, but after what she said to me yesterday broke me to pieces. she crossed the line, there's no amount of "it is what it is" that can keep me in this relationship with her. today I talked to her about yesterday and again she didn't understand me, said she didn't mean it about breaking up, was just trying to help but she didn't even apologize, she really thinks she did nothing wrong and she gets mad at me when I try to show her what she did was wrong and that she doesn't love me for real. I'm not very interested in talking to her after yesterday and she noticed it. like I said she's very clingy and she wants to talk to me all the time (and I'm fine with it, I feel the same) and she understood that as me treating her bad (ironic) and that I shouldn't treat her like that, if I was gonna treat her like that I'm better break up. she's playing the victim. after that I'm more convinced that she's narcissist because besides that she's starved for attention and that's also one of the reasons I feel bad and jealous and she doesn't care. but at least she isn't the type that ghosts me when she's mad or takes shit out on me and is rude for no reason. that's one of the reasons I haven't fallen out of love with her. she says she loves me and does a lot for me but honestly, that's not love, that's obsession.
the only reason I haven't killed myself yet is because I don't have the means to have a peaceful death, all the methods I have are not worth the pain. I don't know much about meds and I don't have experience with faking receipts. I wish I had the freedom to buy a gun and end this pain.

I love my boyfriend more than anything but I have realized I am not in love anymore. He is not the person I want to spend the rest of my life with anymore. He just doesn’t fulfill me emotionally or sexually.
Idk if I can leave him though bcuz he has NOWHERE to go. He has no friends or family that are reliable or that he can stay with. He doesn’t work and relies on me for everything. If I break up with him and he moves out I’m afraid of what will become of him. I also don’t want to be stuck in this relationship anymore. I’m not happy and I’m just exhausted and drained.
I like to talk about our love for one another and to have sex everyday and show affection & he doesn’t. When he does I feel it seems very forced and not genuine on his end. I have talked to him about this & it becomes a fight because he doesn’t feel t necessary to say it everyday because “it loses its meaning that way”
What do I do?
Tl;Dr unhappy with my bf but he has no one or nowhere to go if I break up with him and I’m worried about will happen to him

“Understand the palm of my hand, bitch!”

Emily “Em” Davis is a 19-year-old college student described as intelligent, resourceful and persuasive. She was Jessica’s former best friend and Mike’s ex-girlfriend before Hannah and Beth’s tragic disappearance on Blackwood Mountain, where their brother Josh invites all his friends to celebrate the one-year anniversary, secretly plotting a twisted revenge “prank”. Unbeknownst to them, however, the mountain harbors something much deadlier in the form of cannibalistic Wendigos, and the worst is yet to come as they wait until dawn (roll credits) for the rescue team to escort the survivors back home to safety.
Trivia: Her dream job is a magazine style editor.

Strength:

• Pulls Matt, a jock, up from a cliff with just one hand.
• Breaks through a wall of boards with just her body.
• Knees the Stranger in the dick so hard that he loses his grip on her.
• Pulls the chain on a very old mineshaft, causing several large rocks to fall in just one yank. Can also count as a speed/agility trait since she’s being chased by a Wendigo while doing this.
• Knocks Ashley to the ground with just one slap in the face. If you listen closely to the scene with audio, you’ll hear Ashley crying and apologizing immediately after the fact. Damn, Emily must’ve hit her hard.

Durability:

• Gets hit in the face with a radio but still holds onto a ledge for dear life.
• Cuts her leg on a piece of debris but still performs most of these feats like it’s nothing.
• Gets bit in the shoulder by a Wendigo but can still hold onto a zipline just fine.
• Can still run just fine after literally a fairly long distance off said zipline.
• [Limit; NSFW] Can die by getting her eyes gouged out, falling into an ore grinder, getting shot in the eye by Mike, or being burned alive in an explosion by Sam.

Speed & Agility:

• Slips off a ledge but manages to pull herself up when Matt hesitates.
• Swings herself over to a hanging ladder with a rope around her ankle.
• Successfully climbs a big rock wall without any safety gear.
• Outruns a Wendigo.
• Jumps over an ore grinder.

Marksmanship:

• Headshots a Wendigo with a flare gun.

Intelligence:

• Claims to have a 4.0 GPA in school.
• Is the only one who even thinks about calling the rescue team when her friends start dying off.
• Knows how to fix and use radios.

Other:

• Is very determined in general. Once she has a goal in mind, she’ll get there no matter what.
• While it is rare given her overall jerky attitude, she does show a softer side at times. She regrets what happened to Hannah and Beth, shows concern for Matt in the end credits if they had a good relationship (even acknowledging she was “such a bitch” if he died too), comforts Ashley over Chris’ death, and even scolds Matt for killing a deer.

Wendigo RT for scaling.

So we have a friend(18F) whos in a relationship of 5 months. After a couple of months there were allegations of cheating from people who knew him(18M). We still do not know if that's true of not but they kind of just moved past it after a month or so. Then gradually she started telling us more and more about him continuously bring up her previous sexual encounters, telling her to "go cry about it" and calling he stupid when she got upset. Some of which were his friends. Along with this came her telling us more and more about him being verbally abusive towards her. She told us that he'd smash thing around the house when hes angry, his house is covered in bumps holes and tears from when he does this. She has talked to him about things several times because she thought he was not aware of how he was making her feel and it continued to happen more often. It got so bad a night ago she was crying in the hallway and we saw the texts he sent her and they were probably the worst things we've seen someone say to someone else, all because she wasn't replying to him fast enough when she was at her closest friends house. We tried to convince her to just break up with him, she's always telling us he's going to change but he really doesn't even see to want to. The night ended in her crying and saying that if they had to break up she might kill herself. She then told us that when she'd gotten home several more walls were damaged, he'd ripped apart of of her stuffed bears, he'd cut a chair with a knife and then cut himself. We eventually had to call her dad to go check on her because she was telling us such concerning things over the phone about how she was feeling. She and her parents are convinced that this kind of 'relationship drama' is normal and that they just need to 'set boundaries'.
What are your opinions on this? Should we stay out of it or are we justified in trying to convince her to leave him?
Tldr; Friends boyfriend verbally abuses hr and smashes the house up and breaks things when she's away should she leave?

Does anyone else feel as if MC only made/makes things worse? We are now on our second (just started) and everything is so raw. It’s like we relived all the DDays since the first in just an hour. There has been zero healing after 2.5 yrs. I feel defeated. I’ve tried to walk away so many times to just be done. Always brought back through crying and begging. Why can’t I hurt her like she hurt me. I feel like the only way I can leave is if she will let me go. I know that will never happen. She really has nothing without me. I’m her support, her provider, her keeper. It’s up to me to save the marriage yet get little to no support from her. It’s up to me to maintain the family unit. It’s up to me to make it all better (WW would rather play pretend like she didn’t stab me in the back over and over). I didn’t cause this shit, why is it all on me? Why can’t I just be done and leave? New therapist asked are we committed towards each other, her answer was yes, mine was no not now. Asked about trust between us, I honestly laughed harder than I have in a long time. He asked that bad? Now just more screaming and crying. I feel like I’m being manipulated and bullied into staying yet again. I can’t break free. I feel like I have to stay based on a promise I made when I first proposed. The only way out is one of us dying. I never thought this could or would happen. I can’t hurt her or leave her unsupported no matter what she has and keeps putting us through and I feel it’s killing me slowly (is this codependency?). Like waiting to bleed out but your being pumped with more blood as you lose it. I’ll survive but is it worth it? Is this life we live worth it (the marriage not my life, I’m not giving up on me). I just needed to vent for a moment and get this out there.

I (21 man) have been living with my mother for more than 8 years just the two of us (of course the rest of my life too, but 8 years without my sister), since my sister Charlotte (21) left home when she was 19, the problem started when she returned home a few months ago because my father, who is the one she lived with, has financial problems to continue supporting her while she is still going to university to study dance.
In these months, she began to come frequently with her boyfriend, who isn't working either, and they stayed for weeks, acting as if I were that 13-year-old brother who had no idea about anything and exaggerated all his emotions (that's what she thought of me), she also began to change every space in the house, criticize me for how I did things and minimize how tired I was after coming home from law school.
Yesterday I went to the gym, while my mother and sister were going to see my grandmother, in this context I spoke to my sister asking if they could pick me up when they got back, to which she replied that there was no problem and that I would have to stay longer in the gym to wait for them.
I was in the gym for an hour and a half then went out because they were closing so I started calling them, to which none of them answered for a long time until like 15 minutes later I get a voice message from my sister saying that they had arrived home and that I didn't answer my phone when she called me. This was because my phone had no signal for a couple of minutes apparently.
With this I felt quite bad, not because I couldn't go home by myself, but because I thought we had agreed that they were going to pass next to de gym to pick me up and I programmed myself to wait for them and stay longer.
My mom said that she was going to get me, angry at me cause I was mad, to which I replied that it was okay but in a bad way, (the gym is about a 30-minute walk but 5 minutes by car. Already in the car my mother received me very upset and gave a crazy look, I told her “so YOU are mad at me?” To which she got furious, called me insolent, that I was being arrogant and that she did not raise me like that.
Arriving at the house I was annoyed at my sister more than anything else since I had all these feelings bottled up all I wanted was to go to sleep, but as soon as I tried to open the door she came out with a distinguishable look of disgust towards me. That's why I got even more annoyed and I flung open the door while she was still blocking my way and thats why I shoved her with my shoulder.
I went to bed but my mom got even angrier at how I reacted and went to my room to reproach me for how irrational I was acting, I went to the dining room to continue arguing, to which my sister kept calling me a "violent man" and other insults that are from my country so I don't know how to say it in English. Before that I responded by saying that I didn't care about her opinion, that I didn't consider her my sister and that I genuinely didn't love her.
I wanna be clear I understand that my reaction was bad but we were all upset and yelling at each other, which is not different from the rest of the discussions where my sister was involved.
My sister tells me "what would your girlfriend say if she sees you like this, she would break up with you in an instant for being a violent idiot", to which I responded as nothing else came to me and said "stop messing with my life you and your obese boyfriend that doesn't even work while being 28 years old".
The night was nothing more than shouting and arguing, about my sister comparing me to her ex (who abused her physically and psychologically), which in my opinion has nothing to do with it, since during the argument I always felt that I was beneath her. the younger brother who did not know how to deal with his sister who belittles him, but she did not stop treating me as misogynistic, sexist and several other accusations that were unfounded in my opinion, I never had any aggressive thoughts towards her, I simply did not know what deal with a situation that collapsed and I insulted her in the way my brain allowed me.
The next day I asked to speak to my psychologist, to whom I told her the facts as my mother told me she saw them, as well as how I saw them, to which she told me that I was not the violent one, but that in my family we are used to discussing in a violent way. Yes, I have many traumas regarding my sister, but that does not make me someone violent.
On my mother's side it was also difficult, because despite the fact that at no time did I speaked directly to her during the discussion, she did not give me a chance to explain how I felt and why I reacted that way with my sister, instead she tried to stay aside and tell me that what I told my sister about her boyfriend was too much, not only that but she questioned if I reacted like that with my peers, with my partner or with someone else. When she is the person who knows me best, which also affected me greatly.
After my session with my psychologist, I talked to my mom, in a long conversation where she undestood my point and how I've been feeling with my sister and we both agreed that the relationship between me an my mom was a thousand times better when my sister was not there, but logically my mom would stop the conversation there and tell me "I know everything changed with us since she arrived, but I can't throw her out when she's still my daughter."
I don't have a conclusion as such, but I have been thinking about the situation for a long time, I know theres no quick solution, nor that everything will be resolved quickly, also I wanna add that the situation is a lot mor complex than I can comment on, since this is not more than a summary of everything that has happened since my sister arrived a few months ago.

So my husband and I have been married for nearly 3 yrs, and had and OURS baby back in November. I have been in my stepsons life since he was 3 years old and he is now 11.
When dating my husband, engaged, and married my family has never treated my stepson as part of the family. I mean when they see him, they are nice, and if it is Christmas they get him a small gift. They do ot go out of their way for him. So I have adjusted to my extended family (parents, grandparents, siblings, etc) on interacting with my close family (husband, stepson, and now baby girl) on like holidays or birthdays because that is how they treated the situation until I had my baby girl in November. My mother now drives an hour every Sunday to attend church in our town (she claims it is because my younger brother started college over here this year and they can go to their segregation together (note husband and I attend a totally different church, like they are church of christ and we are methodist). Well after church she wants go out and eat with us, or come sit and hangout at my house (but fusses about my dogs [we never had dogs in house growing up], or how my bedroom,/master bath are a mess [we are redoing our master bathroom ourselves and really only can do it on weekends so everything is misplaced and cluttered....], or how we parent my stepson....) and just frustrates my husband and I, he typically goes into his home office and does stuff on computer or goes to the neighbor. Then my mom asks is he mad and just uggggg....
A key thing to note before I get to the real problem. My mother did not raise me or my brothers up until we were 3/4 we always stayed with great grandparents/grandparents/aunts/etc. To the point when my baby was born and my mom visited at the hospital, she would not hold the baby saying she didn't know how to hold babies. I said you held me and my brothers. She responds with no the minute ya'll were born I sent you to the nursery and when we left your dad carried you and we dropped you off at Meme's on the way home.
Now on to my issue my mother has said that when my daughter gets a little older she will take her on trips and travel the world like New York, Italy, etc. I have just brushed this off thinking she is just talking like she does. Now my mother has asked for mothers day can we have a girls weekend (just her, me, and my daughter). I said yes. My first issue with this was a few weeks ago, my close family and I went to the zoo, afterwards my mom asked how it went. I said it went well, it was a little cold and about 1 the baby started fussing wanting out and I took her out and carried her for about 30 minutes and she started fussing again so we decided to come hom because she was tired. My mom then responda with why didn't you just put her in the carseat that clips into the stroller like you had at first and let her sleep. I told my mom that baby will not sleep in the stroller for the baby to go to sleep she has to be laid down in a quite room with the lights off and not a lot of commotion. My mom thens throws a hissy fit saying that the baby is going to ruin her trip because sue planned to get up at 7 on Saturday and listed all these activities for the day. Which had us going nonstop till about 6 pm when we would eat dinner and then more stuff planned after till about 9:30 pm. Then Sunday we would get up early again and go all day till we decided to drive home (about a 2 hr drive).... I told her this was not going to work we might be able to do a few things but we would need to go to hotel like 12:30ish or 1 for baby to nap and we would need to hang out there till about 2:30, and also some of my mothers choices of what she wanted to do arent really feasible for a breastfeeding mom. So I told her all this and she just told me well you better figure out how to get the baby to nap on the road and you will just have to pump before hand and have bottles ready for those moments. I explained that while that would work if I dont feed her I need to pump every 4 hours and she ask what does that entail. I have the medela pump that you plug into the wall and she is like can't you just do that while walking.... my next issue is she has started planning it, and has called several times to figure out accomodations for the three of us. She has repetitively said "I want this to be a good trip for the baby so I cant train her to travel with me, and I can just put her in car and go...." she will also tell me things like I will take the baby on trips but not stepson he is not normal and is wild (he has AHDH, and is color blind but thats it)......
Now I just don't feel like there will ever be a time that I will be like sure mom just take my daughter X hours while I hang out at home. I mean I have never left my daughter with anyone but her dad and that has only been like for me to go to a doctor's appointment, and that is it. When we go to church I sit in the mother's room and sit through the service there instead of sending her to the nursery. I have never left my stepson with family members (other than when his mom has him on her two weekends a month). I just I don't know I am not comfortable with the idea and there is no need for it. My husband works from home most days, when I did work I arranged my schedule so when my stepson was not at school I was not at work. Maybe if my close family and I did not go on several trips a year I coud get it but we take three big trips a year. When I say big trips I mean like 7 day trips. Like in 2021 we went to disney world for 8 days during fall break. Went camping in our rv on several weekends (like 10 or so times) from October till February (some my stepson had wrestling tournaments and some we just went). In March of 2022 we went on a 7 day cruise to Mexico. We took several camping trimps over the summer. In October 2022 we went to Gatlinburg for 9 days and went into the aquarium, dollywood, saw a dinner show, etc for fall break. The weekend before halloween we went to Holiday World for the weekend.... We go on plenty of trips and go all out sonI don't see the justification of my mom taking my baby to all these places. If she wants to go on a trip all she has to do is call and say she would like to go to X and we could plan it. I just never see myself saying yeah just take my daughter on this trip without us, and then to say she was going to exclude stepson. It just frustrates me. Please advise!!!!

Initially upon reading the skill proposal for Shamanism I immediately linked it to invention from RS3 however after looking at other people's ideas and interpretations I started to focus more on the ritual side of things and distance it from imbuing.
My interpretation of rituals is that they will take longer to cast than drinking potions and would likely not be castable in combat but would provide effects lasting significantly longer than potions.
These are some of the ideas I collected for possible use with the idea of rituals, the ideas include weaker effects that would probably be cast at lower levels and include some more powerful effects for the higher levels as well.
^{Disclaimer: All of the ideas listed below do not have duration, size, or buff/debuff numbers attached as I believe those numbers would skew readers thoughts on the ideas behind the rituals rather than the effects themselves.}

Combat Benefits:

Starting with probably the more controversial rituals, those affecting combat. I intentionally stayed away from effects that would boost damage output as those are the most debated. Instead I focused on effects that are found in nature itself linking back to the overarching theme of Shamanism and that would have useful but hopefully not be too overpowered.
Locational – Effects are only active in the radius of the ritual itself

• Circle of Aggression – All monsters in the affected area will be aggressive towards the caster
• Docile Sphere – All monsters in the affected area will be passive towards the caster unless attacked (Does not work on Bosses)
• Grasping Vines – Grew vines from the ground that deal damage over time to enemies standing in its radius
• Withering Thorns – Applies the effect of the Vulnerability spell to targets in its area

Self – Effects applied directly to the caster of the ritual (or possibly other players in the area, depending on balancing)

• Barkskin – For a duration your defense is increased, however your damage is lowered
• Toxic Treatment – Causes poison to heal you instead of damaging you
• Ritual of Faith – Dedicate yourself to the gods, granting the effects of a prayer enhance
• Healing Spirit – Call forth a fairie to heal you for a small amount over time

 

Skilling Benefits:

Here I believe is a perfect location of implement many of the ideas the community had for “Skilling Prayers” in a way that would fit perfectly with Shamanism and it’s connection to nature.

• Ornithology – Bird nests are more common while woodcutting
• Metallurgy – Chance for a rock golem to spawn when mining ores that will drop ores and gems when killed
• Luck of the Sea – Increased chance of catching fish
• Plant Growth – You enrich the land around you, all farmland in the area has a decreased chance for disease until harvested
• Fleetfooted – Grants 100% success rate for agility course obstacles

 

Miscellaneous:

Here are ideas that don’t strictly fit into the other two categories.

• Plane Shift – Draw an arcane circle and travel to the spirit realm or back to the overworld
• Tree Stride – Imbue a tree with magic temporarily turning it into a spirit tree for a single teleport
• Asylum – Regenerate life points at an increased rate while inside the circle (Non-Combat)
• Luck – Grants the effect of the ring of wealth
• Starlight – You summon a floating sphere, lighting up unlit area
• Vigor – Resting inside the circle grants increased run regeneration

 
Many of the ideas above are inspired by D&D and other games, If you have ideas for rituals of your own, or inspired by other games please post them in the comments!

TL;DR: My girlfriend demands I am in the same room as her and cries, gets angry, upset and sometimes yells at me if I want time to myself in another room. We live together, work from home together, and pretty much do everything together all the time. I have spoken to her about needing time to myself and explained it is nothing personal. She understands for a little bit of time, but then goes back to her old ways. I am tired of this, and feel drained of my energy and I am getting bitter, frustrated, and annoyed with every little thing she does. She texts me all day long too and sends me videos on instagram and demands that I watch them while I am at work. She has yelled, cried, and become accusatory towards me for missing her phone call and not responding to her texts quickly enough. How can I set boundaries successfully after years of failing?
My girlfriend and I have been together for a few years now. From what I have gathered over the years, she has an anxious attachment style. I try to be supportive and tell her I care for her, love her, and we spend about 95% of our overall time together. I need time to myself to decompress, and this includes going into another room to listen to music, read articles, study for certifications, and just generally relax. If I want to go into another room by myself for a few hours she will often break down into tears, yell at me, or tell me we do not spend enough time together. We both work from home and she suggested that we even set up our working space in the same room (I told her this would not be possible for me). I do pretty much everything with her and I am supportive, loving, and caring. I am starting to feel burnt out, bitter, irritated with every little thing she does because we spend so much time together. She got mad at me for having COVID and needing to isolate from her for a couple of days in another room. There have been times where I want to hang out with my friends for a couple of days for a trip and she breaks down into tears. I have spoken to her honestly about my need for time to decompress in the other room and do things with my friends. She will understand for a little bit and then go back to her ways of crying, yelling, and complaining we do not spend enough time together. She demands I am in the same room as her while I study, but it becomes a distraction for me and I am unable to relax or focus on the things I am working on. Nothing has worked over the last few years (even re-assuring her, spending more quality time together, and remaining in the same room as her while I do what I want to do). I want her to be happy, but it is at the expense of my own sanity and happiness. I feel like if I continue to spend 24/7 with her for the rest of my life and give into her demands of me being near her at all times, I am going to go insane. Again, I have had countless honest discussions about her needs and my needs and attempted many tactics of giving each other time together and time apart to do what we need to do, but it has not worked. Do you have any advice on how to solve this? I do not want her to be unhappy, but I don't want to burn myself and make myself continuously unhappy while catering to her.

I (20f) spoke to exbf(22m) about my confusion on sexuality 5 days ago. We proposed a break and didn’t speak until 6 hours ago when he asked to FaceTime.
Background: I’ve been perpetually stressed since I moved into current house (university house) in September and haven’t really dealt with that stress, just problem after problem snowballed. Because we are semi long distance, when these problems would become too much, I would stay with him for a week at a time, he would drive and collect me if I was having panic attacks etc. For this reason I became I think a little codependent, him and his house were an escape for me, he was happy to keep me there for a while to recover and rest. I’ve recently discovered I’ve failed university and my mental health is at an all time low. Around the time I discovered I failed, I stumbled upon the infamous master doc with no prior thoughts of being a lesbian. Because my brain is absolutely rotted at this point, I can’t figure whether my lack of attraction for him is because of being a lesbian or because my body and self has shut down from this constant stress. So many things he does irritate the shit out of me.
I find him objectively beautiful, but I relate to many stories shared by lesbians experiencing comphet. Sex I zone out and sometimes feel used after, I enjoy feeling craved and desired but idk about actually going through with it. I like the cuddling after. For me sex is performative. I grew up Christian and have a lot of shame about the whole subject though- can’t easily communicate my needs.
Anyway, after 5 days of the break I realised I am deteriorating and he has been my escape, I didn’t really have anyone i wanted to talk to other than him, or anyone anyway. I thought I would tell him i think I’m just stressed and was hoping conversation would be good for us. He instead broke up with me. He said he didn’t want to, but there’s lots of things he hasn’t faced because he was prioritising me the whole relationship, my issues, my mental health instead of his own. Said he needed to focus on himself for a while. He said I can’t figure out my sexuality without being single so it’s for my sake too.
I understand everything but it fucking sucks. Was numb on call but I didn’t stop screaming and crying for 2 hours after it. He is my rock and I’m terrified of the changed routine, and not having an escape to a different town, scared if we will even remain friends because ldr and I can’t drive.
It doesn’t feel real and I just want to wake up tomorrow having had this as a bad dream.
There’s so many other things at play here- being tested for adhd and autism which could change my feelings and understanding on everything.
I guess I just wanted to share and ask for other people’s experiences, also how do I let myself feel without intellectualising it? Any advice for healing would be insanely helpful.. thank you ❤️‍🩹

So me and partner of 3 years broke up.
Ove the weeks we had a break and then started meet ing up on weekends.
It was good, we started communicating abit more, understanding each other more and for a moment it felt like things were getting better
However, yesterday she said if I could wait for her.
She felt confused. Im about 6 years older than her (30 and 24) and had marriage in my future plans.
She on the other hand said that although she knew I was husband material, she felt that she felt the path to marriage and living with one person forever was very daunting and scary.
She wanted to " explore" a bit more before settling down so she tried to put an offer up asking me to let her explore other people and coming back to me in the rs before this year ends.
She said it was very selfish of her but she wanted to really know what she wants?
I feel conflicted as during her age, i was dating a lot so to her it didn't feel fair.
I also felt upset as I thought I was trying hard the last few weeks and it was going well
Lastly I was thinking if I should agree to put myself in a position where I may not feel self respect if I said yes. Will I be able to tolerate it? Idk. She did say I'm free to meet someone new while she does the same, though all I want to focus now is on my career.
Comments?

TLDR: I out earn my partner 350% and it’s wearing on me. He doesn’t seem to mind.
I have spent 2.5 years encouraging my partner to pursue his associates. When I first brought it up, he mentioned that he had begun an ABA (Associates of Business) at our local community college, but dropped out due to poor grades. At the time, he felt he was wasting his money. I believe him, having looked at those grades. He would’ve been better off waiting - he’s really screwed himself by half-assing this. His standing GPA is far too low for any sort of subsidy - even in a state that now offers free college tuition to local schools for local residents. Today, however, he owns and operates a bicycle repairetail shop with a partner.
He and his partner pay themselves less than the state minimum wage in order to keep their shop afloat. This is only legal because they are the owners. I don’t have the numbers in front of me but it’s something like $11/hour and 32 hours/week that they actually extract from their business.
My partner and I do not live together because we can’t afford it. I live in one of five units on an old (1930s) multi-generational property that has been split into separate dwellings. When one of my neighbors left after a year of dating this guy, he leapt at the opportunity and now lives in that corner of the property. So we’re neighbors, effectively. We’re actually very lucky that the landlord here is an actual person and also a really nice guy. My partner pays $600/month and no utilities. I pay $630/month + electric and gas. So about $750.
We want to move in together, but he a musician and I an artist, we need at minimum one extra room for our respective practices. I personally demand some amenities; I need laundry in unit, a dishwasher, no carpets (we both have cats), and a backyard that isn’t too spooky. Our little town has seen an influx lately and anything like that is going to run about $1900-2500/month. We both need to contribute if we want this, and my partner says he does.
I work full time and pull about $3K home per month. My employer is the community college that my partner flunked out of. As part of my job, I have been made aware of the recent changes to local law, which allow local residents to attend this school for free. The only requirements are that you live and pay taxes here for 2 years, and maintain a 3.0 GPA. Born and raised here, my partner remains unqualified based on his abysmal GPA.
Without the scholarship, it still costs peanuts compared to what I paid for my education. I’ve explained to him that the GPA is averaged, and he could take a course that suits him and do well, in order to raise that grade. After which point he could pursue any degree at zero cost. I offered to pay for those interim courses. Art history? Geography? Photography? ANYTHING. I’ll pay the $100/credit hour to help you finish this, because I cannot carry both of us.
He sulks. It’s too hard, I guess. I’ve known him for more that a decade but it’ll be 3 years since we started canoodling this October. In September, I plan to ask him again if he’ll go back to school. If he says no, I think I’ll have to break up with him. I dislike ultimatums, and worry that I’m being unfair.
What would you do?

So, I am currently a senior in high school, and I have AP exams coming up, and I figure that I need to study a little bit every day outside of studying for tests to make I do well on those tests.
But there’s one problem, I can’t bring myself to study outside of the amount I might do for a test, which is already very little.
I feel like I’ve tried everything, different studying tactics, studying with a friend (when we both have the time), taking breaks, doing it at different parts of the day, etc. but within 2 minutes, my mind is throwing a tantrum and refuses to study, and I end up doing something else. I only manage to make myself study for tests and quizzes because those have an immediate effect on my grade, but even then, every second is agonizing and I still don’t do well on the tests in the end. And I know that college expects me to study an amount that is orders of magnitude longer than what I do now, so I need something that works, and fast.
Part of me thinks it’s my philosophy on “time outside of school,” because as I see it, school already steals 7-8 hours of my day away from me, so every second outside of it is sacred, and should not be tarnished by things like homework and studying. It’s why even when I do successfully study for something, my mind is constantly whispering all the things I could be doing besides studying, which in effect, is basically an extension to the school day. It’s also why I’ve tried to look for schools and colleges where classes are longer, but don’t assign any homework or tests, but to no avail.
It almost feels like I am physically incapable of doing it. And no matter how I try and do it, I hate every second of it. Does anyone have any suggestions for this? Do yall feel the same way? Do any of you have some method you use for studying to not feel like walking through a mile long field of legos?
TLDR: i need to study for AP exams and for college, but I can’t bring myself to do it. Suggestions?

I recently found out that the married man I was having an affair with was also cheating on me (no shocker there) and I recently contacted her telling her what a narcissist he is and that he called her awful names and that she too would be discarded like I was. I realize I sounded like a woman scorned after a break up. BUT i honestly don’t care. My biggest concern is that he’s going to either take me to court for whatever reason (i am almost certain he doesn’t want his dirty laundry thrown around the state of michigan) nor does he want his wife to know about yet another woman he’s fucking around. i don’t have any concerns about him attempting to make me look bad, i can make him look equally as bad but i just wanted to put this behind me. i think me emailing the other woman was more or less therapeutic for me because i kinda was jealous of her at the beginning when i found out about her but i saw she lives in a horrible area, and is not the most attractive and she’s stuck with a married man who will do the same shit he did with me to her.

Titles says it all.
My friends decided to re watch season 1 and introduce the show to his new girlfriend.
When Marty and Rust meet up with sheriff tate in episode one and tells the detectives about the “spaghetti monster” she apparently immediately said “oh he’s a burn victim” and “his ears were green because he’s probably a painter!”
She then guesses that based on the “profile of the killer” that the spaghetti monster is the killer.
When my friend told me this he was clearly impressed with her, and I had to tell him that I think she’s absolutely lying.
When confronted on how she came to this conclusion so early on in the show she said “it was too obvious, sorry”
I call absolute bullshit. I don’t see how with so little info to go on, in an episode traveling at break neck speed, and the introduction of so many characters and plot threads how someone could see that and immediately deduce that’s the killer.
I smell something stinky. Very very stinky. If she actually got this she should probably work for the FBI.
Anyone think this is possible or is she big time lying?

So, I am currently a senior in high school, and I have AP exams coming up, and I figure that I need to study a little bit every day outside of studying for tests to make I do well on those tests.
But there’s one problem, I can’t bring myself to study outside of the amount I might do for a test, which is already very little.
I feel like I’ve tried everything, different studying tactics, studying with a friend (when we both have the time), taking breaks, doing it at different parts of the day, etc. but within 2 minutes, my mind is throwing a tantrum and refuses to study, and I end up doing something else. I only manage to make myself study for tests and quizzes because those have an immediate effect on my grade, but even then, every second is agonizing and I still don’t do well on the tests in the end. And I know that college expects me to study an amount that is orders of magnitude longer than what I do now, so I need something that works, and fast.
Part of me thinks it’s my philosophy on “time outside of school,” because as I see it, school already steals 7-8 hours of my day away from me, so every second outside of it is sacred, and should not be tarnished by things like homework and studying. It’s why even when I do successfully study for something, my mind is constantly whispering all the things I could be doing besides studying, which in effect, is basically an extension to the school day. It’s also why I’ve tried to look for schools and colleges where classes are longer, but don’t assign any homework or tests, but to no avail.
It almost feels like I am physically incapable of doing it. And no matter how I try and do it, I hate every second of it. Does anyone have any suggestions for this? Do yall feel the same way? Do any of you have some method you use for studying to not feel like walking through a mile long field of legos?
TLDR: i need to study for AP exams and for college, but I can’t bring myself to do it. Suggestions?

My dog is 3 yrs old and a corgi and she still pees inside and I don't know what to do anymore. When she was a puppy she actually started off really strong with house breaking but then after that it was on and off. Like she'll be really good for 2 weeks but then pee inside the next. I take her on walks every morning, and a small one right before I leave. Now she's 3 and peeing inside every day, usually in the same spot.
However today was terrible, she somehow managed to push down the baby gate that prevents her from going upstairs, got into my roommates room, ate her trash, and then peed on her floor. Obviously this is unacceptable and I really need to get my dog under control. I just don't know how to move forward to fix the situation.
I have had three dogs in the past, and none of them peed on the floor after like a year maybe 2 years max. And I don't know what I am doing so differently with my current one.
Also in the past, when I first started leaving her by herself, I tried crate training. She does not do well and will actually bark the whole time I am gone. Unfortunately I live in a condo so I got a noise complaint and now I can't go that route.
If anyone has any advice I would really appreciate it.

1. While Jackie is not perfect (and I feel like I see some of myself in her as well - good & bad, so this is why I also say this)… Personally Marshall is not it.

For me, in the ideal boyfriend, you wanna have someone who has a balanced mix of masculine and feminine qualities. I’m not saying having “masculine“ qualities makes you masculine, or vice versa, I’m just categorizing qualities for explanations sake.
I think this is what she really meant when she said she wanted Marshall to be more aggressive. He just comes off as too feminine TO ME, and like it hurts me to say that because I feel like it sounds negative but like I truly don’t mean it that way.
I just feel like he doesn’t have ENOUGH masculine qualities to make her want him, and that’s probably what she likes in guys. Like I said, you want to have balance. You want someone who can be emotional and intimate when it’s necessary but also someone who can have that cool little vibe that makes you want them too. Someone who will like give you space TO miss them/want you to have them do things, I don’t know how to explain it.
I know the right woman who likes those kinds of guys would appreciate him.

1. Chelsea seems so dismissive of Kwame and what he wants. It seems he’s compromising for her so much, and I feel like she’s not extending her hand to him at all.

Kwame isn’t the ideal husband, but clearly she thinks he is - so lets pretend he is. In that case why are you making him break his back to do everything to please you with no kind of empathy being shown? Just the way she comes off when he shares how he felt in one of the past episodes when they were talking about kids felt so cold.

1. I feel like Micah has slightly redeemed herself in the past few episodes, I like that she took accountability for the way she was acting with Irina previously. And she said that before their conversation about her with Paul, I believe… someone can correct me if I’m wrong.

Her friends are definitely not it though, so I’m not really sure how to feel about her. Maybe Paul can change her for better, since she did say to his mom that he makes her feel more grounded. I also thought her meeting his mom was really cute to be honest.
I feel like she might be kind of serious, but maybe she’s just playing up for the cameras who knows. I can’t see her leaving Paul for Kwame though, what does Paul not offer that Kwame does?

Ladies and gentlemen, brace yourselves for a revelation so underwhelming, it's almost impressive.
I recently endured an interview with the master of mediocrity, Yams, where he babbled about the so-called themes or messages he hoped to embed in his "masterpiece." Apparently, he didn't have a message, but if he absolutely had to choose one, it would be that "anyone can be the aggressor." Revolutionary, right?
Allow me to decipher his "genius" intent: Yams wanted to lure readers into the protagonist's world, only to betray them with a spectacular narrative face-plant. He aimed to dismantle the protagonist's viewpoint because, you know, readers are sheep who just gobble up the hero's perspective. How incredibly insightful!
Reflecting on Attack on Titan with Yams' "revelations" in mind, the ending was indeed the intended disaster. The author wanted readers to sympathize with the outside world—not just Eren's destruction, but also the sob stories of the warriors, Marley, and their ilk. Simply riveting.
Now, I can already sense some of you feverishly gathering "evidence" to disprove this theory. True, the story intentionally demonizes the outside world, making it easier to empathize with the suffering souls on Paradis. How very daring!
The reason for this narrative mess? The story attempts to endear both sides to the reader in a schizophrenic fashion. That's why we're subjected to the warriors' melodramatic lives.
There's a nauseating number of examples of this clumsy attempt to establish moral equivalence between characters and ideas. I could list them all, but I'd need a coma-inducing video essay or something equally dreadful.
Here's one pathetic example to gnaw on:
Remember when Eren, in his infinite wisdom, claims he and Reiner are the same? Reiner tries to correct Eren's absurd belief, confessing his own internalized racism and hero complex. And how does Eren respond? With the mind-boggling, "I knew it, we're the same."
This defies logic for anyone with a functioning brain. Eren's motives were freedom and vengeance, not playing hero. Even in the final chapters, he focused on saving his friends and breaking the Titan curse.
Initially, I assumed Eren misunderstood Reiner or Reiner projected his issues onto Eren. But no, these asinine "parallels" exist because the author was hell-bent on force-feeding readers a twisted sense of moral equivalence—even when it's glaringly obvious they're not.
Still not convinced? Just ruminate on the ludicrous Ymir and Mikasa equivalence at the end. Let that fester in your mind.
In summary: Attack on Titan was an elaborate trap, seducing readers with a gripping narrative only to try (and fail) to make them see both sides as equal. The ending was a train wreck because, well, Yams couldn't resist shooting himself in the foot.