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TinyHouses: a place for people interested in small or tiny houses

2009.10.20 02:15 terraserenus TinyHouses: a place for people interested in small or tiny houses

A place for people interested in small or tiny houses.

2010.12.21 19:27 paulwheaton homesteading, farming, gardening, self sufficiency and country life

Ponds, barns, livestock, gardens, food preservation, fishing, hunting, tractors, pigs, chickens, cattle, worms, 4H, permaculture, organic, grazing, canning, aquaculture, trees, woodland, farmers, agriculture, agronomy, horticulture, wwoofers, bees, honey, wildcrafting, dairy, goats, nuts, berries, vegetables, sustainability, off grid, wood stoves, chainsaws, wood heat, tools, welding, green woodworking, farmers markets, composting toilets, straw bale homes, cob building...

2008.07.18 07:38 r/Camping

A subreddit for campers concerned more about the act of camping and less concerned about hiking long distances or light gear. Primarily for tent/hammock camping. No RV camping here.

2023.05.31 01:28 vvildlings My restaurant job lost power, do they need to pay full minimum wage for the hours I was there?

Hi, on mobile so apologies for any formatting errors. This happened in Virginia, USA.
So one Saturday my job lost power during lunch, and had to close early. They sent all the morning employees home, but had the PM staff come in at their scheduled time (5pm) in hopes we would regain power. We were there in uniform, unable to leave until 7pm when the owners finally called it and closed for the remainder of the day. At that point we closed down the restaurant in the dark and went home. The issue arises when I checked my pay stub for that week, I was not paid regular minimum wage of $12, but tipped minimum wage of $2.13.
When I asked my manager he said that the tip credit applied since I still made more than minimum wage throughout the pay period, but I had thought tip credit could not be applied to shifts where tips CAN NOT be earned. It’s not like I just didn’t get sat or was stiffed by guests, we were actively turning away customers due to the power outage. I was seeing conflicting info about it online and was hoping someone here could give me some insight.
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2023.05.31 01:27 tiredsoftcreature I feel like I can only focus on two areas of my life at once.

I have 4 main domains: school, work, going to the gym, and home (eating, keeping a clean environment). At any given time I can only fulfill 2/4 of these domains. I neglect the home domain most severely, especially during the school year (college student).
How the hell do people just do all 4, AND have additional stuff like kids or pets? I can’t even take care of a cat bc I’m just so overwhelmed by all the other aspects of my life.
I guess it pays off? I have a 3.9 GPA and I like my body (from the gym) but I’d trade it for some relief in a heartbeat. Im like the Energizer bunny of consistently being overwhelmed and dysthymic.
Also I just wanna say I’m so glad to have found this sub, I read the rules and knew this is the sub I’ve been looking for :))
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2023.05.31 01:27 southernBuscuit How do I embrace a lifetime of singleness?

As I have stated in my previous posts, I am a 28 year old guy that has never had a real girlfriend. I haven't even so much kissed a woman in 8 years. I am seeing everyone around me getting married, even my younger cousin I held when she was just a newborn is anticipated on getting married soon. She is now in her early 20s. Most people I have looked up from the past are married. I am at that age now where people are tying the knot and forming families of their own.
I am short, fat, immature, on the spectrum, and still live at home. Even if I fix the things I can, I still feel like a long way off, and that is IF I can ever attract a woman.
In all honesty, with all my hurdles, I don't think it will ever happen for me.
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2023.05.31 01:27 girthquakinator Cought(30M) my ex-fiancee(30F) lying

A little backstory: I've been together with my partner for 7 years now. We have had our fair share of problems. Just like most couples. Weve had fights where our relationship was on the line and for some reason or another we gave it another chance and kept it going. About 2 years ago my partner picked up a job with Amazon that threw her in a deep depression that has lasted till now. We were fighting a lot. Her mood was seriously affecting me. Last December, we got into a pretty big fight in front of friends and after that I was certain that we would end it right then and there. We didn't. I decided to work on myself and stop drinking and look into therapy. I was able to do so cold turkey and have been 6 months alcohol free and have never felt more in control of my emotions. Fast forward to a few weekends ago. My partner and I both go to school and are working full time. Finals week was upon us and the stress was definitely there. I had been so focused on my school and hobby that I hadn't realized that my house chores were not being prioritized. I only found out after letting my partner know that i planned a camping trip and was not goingg to be left with too much time to do house chores. At this point my mental health was really low and camping was my exit. My partner blew up and made me feel as if I wasn't doing enough around the house. (Granted, we had a deep conversation the night before about how I was stressed about not getting to all of my chores. She expressed to me that it's ok to take time for ourselves and leave chores at a halt) I froze and couldn't believe what I was experiencing especially after the conversation we had. I knew that i had dropped the ball by not prioritizing chores but for it to come to this, i was definitely surprised and caught off guard. Our house is not extremely dirty. We both are relatively clean people. I come home for lunch and try to do as many chores as I can while home. I then began to question if it was really the chores or the meal prepping we do weekly. I ended up going camping and when I got back it was almost as if nothing happened and we went with our lives. Forward to the following weekend. We had a repetition of the fight from last weekend. I wasn't prioritizing chores and that was upsetting her. I was so upset and couldn't think straight as I was so confused because not only do I take care of the outside of our house by mowing, weeding, gardening, i try and take care of inside chores as much as I can. I loads DN unload the dishwasher. Wash and fold towels etc. The problem is my collaboration when it comes to cooking. She can't stand cooking for me and constantly asks me if I want a housewife instead of a partner. I get so hurt by that. That fight ended up us calling off our engagement. I knew this is where this was going. Her depression has really been making this so difficult for both of us. When I proposed to her we were so happy. When the planning began she caved and her depression returned. The stress of the planning got to her to the point where she no longer talked about it, when before it was all she could talk about. After the fight we decided to still stay together but with the agreement of looking into therapy.
This has stressed me tremendously and started making me reconsider our relationship. It got to the point where I felt obligated to snoop into her phone. What I found was not great. She has messages from over 2 years ago where it seems as if she was talking to someone on another platform but messaged her on Twitter anyway. From the messages it looks like they were planning on dating but my partner ended up ghosting him. I also found a message from someone she met at a dance club while she was away on a work trip. She never messaged him back. Idk what to do or think. I'm supposed to look into couples therapy but I'm so confused and hurt that i don't know if I should continue with her. I love her with all that i have and have so for the past 7 years. I'm just at a loss, especially after finding those messages. I've asked multiple times if there is someone else or ever has been and she keeps saying no. I know that what I found aren't concrete evidence of cheating but it's sure leading that way. Any advise is greatly appreciated.
Tldr: My exfiance of 7 years was cought lying and doesn't know. She has had severe depression for the past couple of years and it's gotten to the point where I don't know if I can live with her. We had a fight that made us call our engagement off. I snooped and found multiple messages from other men regarding either dating or dancing in a night club. I'm willing to work it out in therapy, but I'm wondering if it's worth it or just move on?
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2023.05.31 01:26 Dolphinsunset1007 Vent about my wedding & MIL drama

My wedding was this past weekend and it was amazing. Everyone had a great time and partied so hard including myself and now husband. We were so fortunate to have financial help from my parents and FIL (in-laws are separated) to make the day so perfect. My now husband and I planned it ALL (mostly) ourselves (aka mostly me).
Now for the vent/drama aka the MIL. She has a strained relationship with my husband due to a complicated and dysfunctional home life. He tries really hard but is often disappointed by her behavior. I do a lot of the interacting with her to placate him and help their relationship. This is usually more than fine since I’m easy going and have a lot of patience for BS while still being able to enforce boundaries. Husband doesn’t and will lose it on her for anything and everything especially if she starts doing it to me. I’ve kept most of this from him to make sure he didn’t cut her off or strain their relationship before the wedding.
-asks to add an estranged family member five days before the wedding. The final count, seating chart, and final payment had already been provided to the venue. She wanted me to keep it a secret from my husband so she could “surprise” him even though we both knew she was just afraid he would say no. I was so stressed by her request. I told my husband and he was annoyed too but we both agreed giving her this one thing would help keep her in a good headspace for the weekend and make it easier to shut other things down since it was a big ask. Thankfully the venue accommodated.
-we did not consult our parents on the seating chart. It was carefully thought out and there was a reason for every placement. Changing one seat had domino effects to the entire arrangement. She had issues with multiple tables on their side even when I explained the reasonings to her. I told her it’s finalized and was already sent to print and that I’m not paying for a new one six days out to the wedding. She did apologize for being out of line on this.
-we both (us and MIL) brought our dogs to the hotel. My parents were kind to arrange a dog-sitter for the rehearsal dinner and wedding night for our dog and MILs dog even though they were boarding their own dog. In the afternoon before the rehearsal my husband was golfing and I was getting nails done. My mom was with my dog at the hotel. She greeted people in her room and brought my dog to the patio as more and more people came to hangout. She said it was no issue and my dog was so happy to see everyone. In comes MIL whining about the two moms being stuck with the dogs (her own dog not someone else’s) and what’s with these supposed dog walkers (she was told they’re not there for the dogs until dinner). She whined about this to me and my mother which still annoys me now because my mom was so gracious to arrange this for us when her own dog wasn’t even involved. She did absolutely nothing to plan for her own dogs care and had the audacity to complain to the person who was nice enough to coordinate something. I guess she was saying something the next morning too and as she was complaining the dog walkers showed up. IMO they were great and did everything I asked and more.
-my mom and I paid for hair and makeup for the bridesmaids and moms as a gift. We each paid half, it was over two grand total. While I was getting my makeup done she asked if my husbands grandma could get “a little something at the end.” We were all getting ready in my grandmas room. I told her this isn’t fair to her and that it is a big ask at the end of the session. What I didn’t say is “it’s $110 per person are you paying?” I also didn’t answer fast enough I guess bc she left me a three minute voicemail before I could send an answer. I still haven’t listened to it.
-I was told after she drove my venue coordinator crazy. He would tell her to do one thing and she’d do another. He has the grandparents sit somewhere so they don’t have to stand long waiting for the ceremony. She moves them somewhere else. When it’s time to line up for reception entrances she goes and sits with the guests. He goes to get her and she says “I’m fine.” My mom forced him to get her bc she knew there would be drama if she was the only one not included. Thankfullly I didn’t know until after.
-she was just generally self centered the entire wedding weekend. She didn’t want to help with her grandson even though his mom (husbands sister) was a bridesmaid and part of getting ready with me. So many people including my own parents offered to help with him but she needed to focus on “her sons” wedding. She certainly wasn’t too busy to judge other peoples methods of calming the child. My poor SIL was so stressed and was nothing but lovely and actually helpful to me.
I could probably list more and more and more honestly but these are the big ones on my mental that I needed to vent. My mom joked that when we have kids I can’t tell her I’m pregnant until after I give birth so she can’t make me crazy and somehow make it about her.
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2023.05.31 01:26 dodgerfan296 Advice for 5 YR Relationship Gone Wrong (27-M) (26-F)

I (27M) was dating this girl (26F) for five years. About seven months ago we moved to a new state and got engaged. Shortly after engagement, she stated that something felt off and doesn't feel right. After months of wedding and honeymoon planning, she decides to call off the wedding 6 days prior to marriage.
Shortly after, she wanted to postpone the wedding and work on things, but I couldn't agree to this because my heart was crushed and my emotions were all over the place. She then contemplated the idea of moving out because she is not happy and lost sight of who she really is. What's also confusing is she feels mistreated throughout our five year relationship, such as how I would talk to her, her not feeling important etc. However, there were no issues of cheating, abuse, or drug addictions in our relationship.
One night she comes home from a night out with her co-workers and tells me she had a coming to Jesus moment and wants to stay here and work on the relationship. For the next two weeks, she made herself pretty distant from me, which made it very difficult to actually bond and work things out. She then went home for Mother's Day weekend, so I texted her saying we need a game plan by the end of next week knowing what we are going to do moving forward to work on the relationship.
She comes home and decides she is going to move out because whatever we were doing, is was not working. I'm completely devastated that she ultimately chose this route. She stated she is willing to do whatever it takes to fix the relationship, but moving out will allow her to have the space she needs to focus on herself and find happiness.
I feel throughout this entire process she has been giving me very conflicting messages. She claims she is hurt because she caught me lying and hiding about my smokeless nicotine use, which triggered her. She then states I've treated her like garbage throughout the relationship. And lastly, she states that she is not happy and needs time and space to forgive me and herself for everything that happened.
I'm getting the sense that she is using the nicotine as an excuse to get out of the relationship. But then she claims to be unhappy, and I don't know how someone can stay in a relationship for so long and agree to marry someone, just to end up in this mess. It almost as if she actually has personal issues and is blaming me for her unhappiness. It's not my job to make her happy all the time (I could be wrong). She needs to do what makes her happy, such as hobbies and other interests.
IMPORTANT THINGS TO NOTE: She says she still loves and misses me and that I'm her everything and that it's been tough for her being alone. She also apologizes that I have to go through this with her, and she hopes my happiness is with her.
Additionally, her family does not like me at all. They actually told her that she can do better a couple of years ago and she decided to tell me this after we got engaged. Her mom also called me not long ago about our current situation and it ended up with her yelling at me like a teenage girl and blocking all communication after she thought i was charging her for rent still and I gave her an ultimatum to move out by Friday (both not true). I just feel absolutely mistreated and uncared for by her and her family. I thought this girl was the love of my life, and it hurts knowing that I could lose my best friend. We are currently on a week of No Contact and we have a therapy session together next week.
Looking for advice on what I need to do moving forward. Does she actually want to work on herself and be with me? Do I need to move forward with my life?
Sorry for my desperation post. Never thought I would turn to Reddit for advice.
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2023.05.31 01:25 Cheddarbiscuits101 Please, I need some assistance until Friday.

Hello everyone. I’m in desperate need of help. I currently have very little food left at home, and my bank account is running low until Friday. After work today, I walked around my city looking for food banks and a lot of them were extremely empty. Luckily I came across my local library’s food pantry and grabbed a few eggs, some apples, and a bag of lentils. I’ve been living off of rice and beans, and my supply of food is starting to run very low. If anyone would be able to help me tonight, I’d greatly appreciate it. Here is my Amazon list. Thank you again, everyone.
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2023.05.31 01:25 Icy-Bake-3417 AITAH for being angry at my family who went out to see forest fires?

I (20F) live in a place that is full of forest fires right now and a lot of evacuations are currently going on. As of posting this, evacuated areas are 15km from my house (as in, my family house because I live with my parents), and we live in an area with a lot of trees and forests. My dad (50m) and my brother (16m) decided that they wanted to go out for a drive to see the fires, which I repeatedly told them was a bad idea and tried to explain why, but they basically ignored me or laughed it off. Specifically, they think that "fires are a man thing, girls are just worried about it" (said in our native language, but this is basically what they said in a translated version). I asked my mom to talk to them about it, and she said "they didn't listen to me" and laughed it off as them needing to "get their energy out". I also know that she didn't tell them not to go, because my room is next to her and I haven't heard her say anything about it in her conversations.
As a last resort, I called my sister (who doesn't live at home anymore) and asked her to tell them not to go out. She called them, and my brother found out and has since started spamming me with texts like "stop texting [our sister]", "no one was talking to you" and "libtard (laughing face emoji)" (you can probably tell, but my family is very conservative in views). They went out anyway, and I have blocked my brother after the insults and I refuse to talk to my parents after the way they treated me. First couple of things I did was ask my parents to pay me back some money they owe me, and I returned something I bought for my brother.
As a side note, I have been planning to move out for some time but I am in an expensive degree and I don't have the income to do it unfortunately (but its in the plans). AITAH in this situation? Am I overreacting?
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2023.05.31 01:24 drake_burroughs Thoughts on the Cockrum/Grell Legion

Thoughts on the Cockrum/Grell Legion
I've been re-reading my Legion collection and wanted to share a few thoughts about some of the different eras. I include the Cockrum/Grell (I'm basically talking Superboy #172 to the Lightning Lad/Saturn Girl wedding) time together because I think this era marks a couple of key milestones for the group that I find fascinating. I also wanted to see what other people thought and look forward to seeing your opinions.
Here are my short form thoughts (I can expand, if anyone's interested):
Adults versus kids - this is the first time that the book starts to feel like the team members are in their 20's. In the 60's, the characters were usually drawn and written like children. Now, Cockrum and Grell make them look like adults. The stories are still very innocent, but there are attempts to make them more mature.
For the first time, characters not getting along - there are some attempts, usually only with Tyroc and Wildfire, to have characters actually disagree and struggle to work together. It's amazing that DC was so far behind Marvel here with team dynamics, but they're trying.
It's the glorious 70's - Especially when Grell is drawing the book, this screams the vibe of the 70's with every page. From the hairstyles to the costume designs to the clunky dialogue where the writer tries to add slang, it's very decade-specific. Also, some of the really bad attempts at making more diverse characters (Tyroc is painful to read) are the first signs of trying to get a bigger audience. And the whole Karate Kid series is an attempt to cash in on the kung fu craze without anyone actually having a clue as to why kung fu was popular.
The end of the short-form stories - this is really the last time we see 10 and 12-page stories in the Legion. Cary Bates and Jim Shooter do their best trying to make this work, but it's a hard read sometimes. It's such a change from modern stuff, which is so stretched out and written for a trade. Seeing very self-contained short stories is, sometimes, a refreshing change.
Amazingly beautiful art - there's one simple reason why Legion sales rose sharply in the mid-70's: Mike Grell. If you haven't seen any of his work, check it out now.
Thoughts? Am I completely off base here?
What's your favourite part of this era? Best costume designs? Worst? Best story? Worst?
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2023.05.31 01:24 ccress23 I graduated!

I was diagnosed at 24 weeks with GD. I have a family history of GD so I knew it was a high possibility. I struggled with the diet and was losing weight. During my first appointment with the specialist, she started me on metformin so that I could have a little bit more flexibility in my diet. Metformin was awesome! I worked my way to 1000mg twice a day and my sugars were great. No longer had issues with fasting sugar and it didn’t matter if I had a snack or not. It did take around a month on the full dose to regulate my sugars so well.
Where I live (Ontario, Canada), it’s common for induction between 38-40 weeks when medication controlled. Baby measured right on track at all growth scans thankfully. I still, however, opted for induction at 38 weeks. The labour and delivery floor here can be busy, and they often need to turn elective inductions away if they are busy with active labours. I figured I would go ahead with the induction at 38 weeks and not risk being pushed off and delayed. We went in at 9am on May 15th and I received a dose of prostin gel and sent home. We returned 6 hours later to be checked again and I was 3cm dilated and had started mild contractions while I was laying on the stretcher. The OB decided that I didn’t need any more medications and felt I would go into labour over night and need to return, otherwise I was to return for 7am for admission to get things rolling. It was a pretty miserable night and my contractions became stronger, but not unbearable.
My water never broke over night, and we went to the hospital as instructed the next morning. Was assessed by the OB and was still 3cm, was told I would start oxytocin to get things rolling. The infusion started at 9am and contractions got stronger in the next 30min. I laboured on the ball for a while until the pain was too much. I struggled with knowing when to get an epidural, because I didn’t want to be restricted to the bed and slow things down. At 11:30 I asked for the epidural, and by 12:00 I was in 10/10 pain and didn’t think I could handle it! I got the epidural at 1230 and had some relief. My nurse had checked me at 11:30 prior to epidural and I was 5cm, she wondered after the epidural if I had progressed and that was why I was in so much pain, low and behold I was 10cm one hour later! It was time to push!
I pushed for 2.5hrs, but it really didn’t feel like that long. I was nearly pain free and my nurses and husband were wonderful, pushing was the easiest part. Babies heart rate was getting high the longer we pushed, and the OB was called. He decided we would use the vacuum to help baby out. Baby was hands up with the cord wrapped around the neck. A little baby girl was brown at 2:37pm. Right away we could tell her little lungs sounded wet. Because of the heart rate, NICU team was ready to assess baby. She needed some suctioning, and they ended up taking her into the NICU for a bit of breathing support. I was so so sad… she tore me up pretty good, with 3 second degree tears. After being stitched up, the room cleared out and I was pretty much alone, my husband going with baby, I was so emotional. My nurses got me into a wheelchair within the hour to go see my baby. We were able to do some skin to skin and try to breastfeed. While we were there they were able to take off the breathing mask (CPAP). I stayed there with her for an hour or 2, and had to go back to my room to get into the shower. By 6pm our baby girl got to join us in our room! She was 6lbs 11oz and 49.5cm long.
As for the GD, they checked my sugar twice, and baby girls sugar 3 times. All normal. My sugars at home have all been within range, and I will have an A1C checked in the coming weeks. So far all clear!! There is an end in sight my friends :)
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2023.05.31 01:23 KangarooCurrent6704 Am I ta for breaking off a friendship over her lying to me?

Am I ta for breaking off a friendship over her lying to me so I 14F and O 15F have been off and off freinds for a while and she has an ex stepmom beacuse her dad and her got a divorce so they no longer live together and she has a daughter D 17 F and the first time me and O stopped being freinds was because of D calling me fat and O agreeing with her and O reached out to me last summer so almost 1 year ago and we became freinds once again and she said how much she hated D and all this stuff and her ex stepmom had reached out to her about 3 months ago that she has to start watching her half brother and yesterday O was over and around 4pm she said she had to go home beacuse today she had to watch her brother and we share out locations with eachother and I saw she was at the beach with D and not with her brother so I confronted her and I asked if she had to watch her brother today and she said NO then I asked if she lied to me just to hang out with D and she said yes so I said we aren’t freind and then she called me a bitch but D has been the worst to me she has threatened to beat my ass and insulted me and my family and has harassed me with a million diffrent numbers and this is where I could be ta I texted O’s sister A and told her that she can’t be using my HBO account anymore due to O and me no longer being freinds because of her lying to be with D and she started saying how she was part of the family for so long and then I blocked her and then O had her freind Anisly text me saying how I was a skanky bitch like what in the world so am i ta also what should I do since they all will make more accounts to harass me
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2023.05.31 01:23 Pulelehua ~ Island wide community events for the month of June ~

Aloha everyone!
It’s been awhile since we put together a list of events. With so many things happening in the month of June and throughout the summer time, I thought it’d be nice to have a monthly community calendar again.
If there’s anything exciting that you know of happening in June ~ feel free to share it in the comments!
  • Hawaiʻi Kuauli Pacific & Asia Cultural Festival ~ June 9-11th ~
A celebration of Hawaiʻi Island and its beauty as a cultural melting pot. This 3 day event will be packed with food, fashion, cultural expressions, keiki hula, cultural workshops and the islandʻs only Fireknife competition. The event begins Friday with the opening celebration - including protocol from the various cultures represented and a hula hōʻike (celebration). Saturday is filled with a wearable arts exhibit, arts & crafts and a Samoan fire knife competition. Sunday enjoy a delicious culinary experience a the Taste of Pacific & Asia.
The festival is a culturally based experience for both local residents and visitors. It is organized as a combined multi generational effort including members of the community from all spheres of influence - providing them with a platform to showcase the gifts and talents of those cultures present in Hawaii. Presentations of cultural dance expression, culturally based education programs, food, music, fashion and art will be held throughout the three day event.
  • King Kamehameha Day Celebration Parade in Historic Kailua Village ~ June 10th ~
Join us on Saturday morning, June 10, 2023, for the annual King Kamehameha Day Celebration Parade in Historic Kailua Village. Throughout the day, the community of West Hawai‘i will gather to honor the great ali‘i, King Kamehameha I, who established the first capital of the united Hawaiian Kingdom here in Kailua-Kona at Kamakahonu.
Adorned in the flowers and colors of the Hawaiian Islands, regal pāʻū riders on horseback will represent each of the eight islands, led by their respective princesses and the pāʻū queen. The floral parade will also feature hula hālau, equestrian units, marching bands, a horse-drawn carriage and more.
After the parade, enjoy a ho‘olaule‘a (music and art festival) at Hulihe‘e Palace, including a free concert featuring top Hawaiian recording artists. Then take time to visit the many shops, galleries and historic landmarks of Historic Kailua Village.
  • King Kamehameha Day Celebration Ho‘olaule‘a at the Hulihe‘e Palace ~ June 10th ~
Join us for the annual King Kamehameha Day Ho‘olaule‘a beginning at 11:00 AM following the King Kamehameha Day Celebration Parade! We are excited to open the doors and welcome kama‘āina and visitors to: tour the Palace, enjoy the grounds, and support local vendors and artisans, while enjoying musical entertainment and ‘ono food.
All proceeds from the Day go towards the historic preservation, maintenance and operations of the Palace and grounds.
  • 50th annual Kamehameha Day canoe regatta at the Kailua Pier ~ June 10th ~
On June 10, join the Kai ‘Opua Canoe Club as they host the 50th annual Kamehameha Day canoe regatta at the Kailua Pier. Racing action starts at 8 a.m. as canoe clubs from around the Hawai‘i Island come together at the Kailua Pier for all day racing.
Ka‘ahumanu Place will be closed on Saturday for the annual Kamehameha Day canoe regatta craft fair with exciting vendors, a food booth and more.
  • North Kohala Kamehameha Day Celebration ~ June 11th ~
Every June 11th, thousands of people gather on the northern tip of the Big Island of Hawaii to honor Kamehameha I, the chief who united the Hawaiian Islands in 1795. Kamehameha Day is recognized as a state holiday throughout Hawai'i, but North Kohala is a very special place to celebrate. Kamehameha I was born in North Kohala, where residents played a prominent role in saving his life as an infant.
Although North Kohala is a small community, each year on June 11th it puts forth a large grassroots effort to present a full day of celebration and tribute to King Kamehameha I. Visitors are welcomed to the North Kohala towns of Hawi and Kapa'au on Sunday, June 11, 2023 to take part in this unique local event. All events are free.
  • Procession of Royal Societies 8:00 AM - 9:00 AM. There are four Royal Societies: The Royal Order of Kamehameha, ʻAhahui Kaʻahumanu, Hale o Nā Aliʻi and Māmakakaua (Daughters and Sons of Hawaiian Warriors). The four Royal Societies will lead, followed by the Daughters of Hawaiʻi, the ʻAhahui Kaʻiulani and Hawaiian Civic Clubs.
  • Lei Draping Ceremony and Tradition Paʻu Parade 9:00 AM - 10:30 AM: See the original statue of King Kamehameha I in all its holiday glory. The statue in Kapa'au is decorated with many 20-foot-long floral lei created in tribute to the King. Watch a traditional pa'u parade with horses and riders adorned in flowers and colors to represent each Hawaiian Island. At 9:00 AM the road closes while Honorees and Pa'u riders make their way from Kohala High and Elementary School to the statue and Kamehameha Park in Kapa'au. Parade to begin promptly at 9:00 AM.
  • Hana Noeʻau 11:00 AM - 2:00 PM: Enjoy "hands-on"education exhibits that ends the dayʻs festivities at the statue.
  • ʻAha 12:00 PM - 1:00 PM: Join us as we celebrate the Kohala Festivities and the ceremonial release of KŪKULU, A Tribute to the Pillars of Mauna a Wākea, a compilation CD acknowledging, recognizing and honoring all who stand for Mauna Kea and places everywhere around the world.,very%20special%20place%20to%20celebrate
  • Hawaiʻi Island LGBTQ Pride ~ June 24th ~
First celebrated in 2013, this yearʻs Hawai’i Island LGBTQ Pride will take place on Saturday, June 24, 2023 in Hilo. This annual gathering brings together members of the LGBTQ community and supporters in a fun, casual setting to affirm LGBTQIA+ peopleʻs fundamental rights and place in a free society. Join the celebration and experience the creativity, love and power of the unique LGBTQIA+ ʻohana on Hawai’i Island.ʻi-island-lgbtq-pride/
  • June Events at Hawai‘i Volcanoes National Park ~
The longer days of summer are here and that means more daylight to enjoy Hawaiʻi Volcanoes National Park. Mark your calendar for the following June events.
All events are free, but entrance fees may apply. Some programs are sponsored by Friends of Hawai‘i Volcanoes National Park and Hawai‘i Pacific Parks Association. Programs are subject to change or cancellation without notice. Check the park calendar for more information.
  • Battle of Midway: A Japanese Perspective – The Battle of Midway, June 4 – 7, 1942, marked a turning point in World War II. The U.S. Navy and the Imperial Japanese Navy would stand toe-to-toe battling for control of the Pacific. From the first decoded messages to the strategic decisions that would alter the course of history, Ben Hayes, historian and program manager for the park’s Interpretation & Education team, takes us through this epic conflict from a different perspective. Part of Hawai‘i Volcanoes’ ongoing After Dark in the Park programs and sponsored by the Friends of Hawaiʻi Volcanoes National Park. Free, but park entrance fees apply.
    • When: June 6 at 7 p.m. Doors open at 6:30 p.m.
    • Where: Kīlauea Visitor Center auditorium
  • Ulana Lau Hala Demonstration – Learn to weave lau hala with practitioners from ʻAha Pūhala o Puna. Hawaiians have used hala (pandanus) tree to create many useful and beautiful items for centuries. Learn to weave lau hala and take home your own small piece of lau hala art. Part of Hawaiʻi Volcanoes National Park’s ongoing ‘Ike Hana Noʻeau (Experience the Skillful Work) Hawaiian cultural programs, and co-sponsored by Hawai‘i Pacific Parks Association and the Friends of Hawai‘i Volcanoes National Park. Free, but park entrance fees apply.
    • When: June 14 from 10 a.m. to noon
    • Where: ʻŌhiʻa Wing (across Crater Rim Drive from Kīlauea Visitor Center)
  • Saving Wahi Pana (Storied Places) in Kaʻū – Discover how the County of Hawaiʻi Public Access, Open Space, Natural and Cultural Resource Commission (PONC) program and your tax dollars are preserving public access, open space, and natural and cultural resources in Kaʻū. Presented by Alexandra Kelepolo and Jodie Rosam. Part of Hawaiʻi Volcanoes’ ongoing Kahuku Coffee Talk programs and sponsored by Hawaiʻi Pacific Parks Association. Free admission, and Kaʻū coffee will be available for sale.
    • When: June 17 at 9:30 a.m.
    • Where: Kahuku Visitor Contact Station
  • Bert Naihe in Concert – Come be entertained by the Hawaiian music of Bert Naihe. Born and raised in Hilo, Bert enjoys the art of Hawaiian music and performs with Hālau o ka Ua Kanilehua and Kumu Hula Johnny Lum Ho. Bert’s first CD, “You’re the One,” was released in 2014 and features his own catchy versions of longtime favorites. Part of Hawaiʻi Volcanoes National Park’s ongoing Nā Leo Manu Hawaiian cultural programs, and co-sponsored by Hawai‘i Pacific Parks Association and the Friends of Hawaiʻi Volcanoes National Park. Free, but park entrance fees apply.
    • When: June 21 from 7 p.m. to 8 p.m.
    • Where: Kīlauea Visitor Center Auditorium
  • Uēkahuna, Thomas A. Jaggar Museum, and the Hawaiian Volcano Observatory – For decades, the Thomas A. Jaggar Museum has welcomed people from all over the world, sharing volcano science and Hawaiian culture adjacent to the awe-inspiring view that is Kīlauea volcano. The earthquakes of the 2018 eruption and summit collapse damaged the foundations of the historic buildings beyond repair. Join Jadelyn Moniz-Nakamura, Ph.D., as she takes us on a journey through the past of this sacred place known as Uēkahuna. The evolution of the area will be shared on the eve of the park’s efforts to restore a more natural landscape and provide a dramatic viewing area and rest stop for locals and visitors alike. Part of Hawai‘i Volcanoes’ ongoing After Dark in the Park programs and sponsored by the Friends of Hawaiʻi Volcanoes National Park. Free, but park entrance fees apply.
    • When: June 20 at 7 p.m.
    • Where: Kīlauea Visitor Center auditorium
  • Artist-in-Residence Comics Journalist Andy Warner Returns – Join the park in welcoming back New York Times bestselling comics journalist, author and artist Andy Warner as the artist in residence for June. Come meet Andy as he presents the creative mind behind the art. Part of Hawai‘i Volcanoes’ ongoing After Dark in the Park programs and sponsored by the Friends of Hawaiʻi Volcanoes National Park and the National Parks Arts Foundation. Free, but park entrance fees apply.
    • When: June 27 at 7 p.m.
    • Where: Kīlauea Visitor Center auditorium
  • Explore Kahuku – The Kahuku Unit, one of Hawai‘i Volcanoes National Park’s best-kept secrets, is open Thursday through Sunday from 8 a.m. to 4 p.m., and it’s free! Guided ranger programs and talks are offered on the weekends, check the park calendar for more info. Sturdy footwear, water, rain gear, sun protection and a snack are recommended for all hikes.
    • When: Thursday through Sunday, 8 a.m. to 4 p.m.
    • Where: Kahuku is located in Ka‘ū, about a 50-minute drive south of the park’s main entrance. Enter Kahuku on the mauka (inland) side of Highway 11 near mile marker 70.5
  • A Walk into the Past with Dr. Thomas A. Jaggar – Walk back to 1939 and talk with the founder of the Hawaiian Volcano Observatory, Dr. Thomas A. Jaggar, at the edge of Kīlauea volcano. Dressed in period costume, actor Dick Hershberger brings the renowned geologist to life. You’ll learn what motivated Dr. Jaggar to dedicate his life to the study of Hawaiian volcanoes, and how his work helps save lives today. Space is limited; pick up a free ticket at the Kīlauea Visitor Center lānai the day of the program. This program is subject to cancellation during inclement weather. Supported by Kīlauea Drama Entertainment Network.
    • When: Fridays, June 2, 9, 16, 23 and 30 at 9:30 a.m. and 11:30 a.m. Each performance is about an hour
    • Where: Meet at Kīlauea Visitor Center
  • Stewardship at the Summit Rainforest Restoration – Volunteer to help remove invasive, non-native plant species that prevent native plants from growing in Hawai‘i Volcanoes National Park. Wear sturdy hiking shoes and long pants. Bring a hat, rain gear, day pack, snacks and water. Gloves and tools are provided. Under 18? Parental or guardian accompaniment with written consent is required. Visit the park website for details.
    • When: June 2, 10, 16, 24 & 30. Meet at 8:45 a.m.
    • Where: Meet project leaders Paul and Jane Field at Kīlauea Visitor Center on any of the above dates
  • Explore the Summit and Other Ranger-Led Walks – Discover Kīlauea volcano on an easy one-hour, ranger-led walk offered daily. Other ranger-led programs may be offered; check with rangers at Kīlauea Visitor Center for additional programs.
    • When: Explore the Summit is offered daily at 11 a.m. and 2 p.m.
    • Where: Meet at Kīlauea Visitor Center lānai
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2023.05.31 01:23 HercHuntsdirty Girlfriend Left After I Opened Up About Anxiety

I (26M) was recently broken up with by my (24F) girlfriend of 6 years right after opening up to her about how I had been struggling a lot mentally recently. That's not necessarily the cause, but it happens to be a terrible coincidence. It sucks because it was incredibly difficult to open up about to begin with. I’ve always been Steady Eddy for her and my family, I was the athlete, reliable etc so it just added to the pressure to not talk about it.
Backstory to the unfortunate mental struggles:
About 10 weeks ago I had a very long night out and woke up extremely hungover. My brother met up with me that night in our parents car and ended up staying with us for a few drinks, so evidently he left the car.
Of course, I woke up and had a boatload of caffeine so I was already on edge a little bit. My brother was still asleep, so my mom asked me if I could quickly drive my dad to the car so he could take it home. No problem, I hopped in my car and drove there with my dad.
On the way home, completely unprovoked and no anxiety prior, I had an insane panic attack. I’ve never experienced anything like it before. I think I’ve only had one panic attack in my life, and for some reason it left me with a very small amount of social anxiety but it slowly went away over the years. During this attack, my hands and feet were completely numb and sweating. At first, I had literally no idea what was going on - I thought it was a legitimate health issue. I ended up taking a bit to drive home, but I made it.
Unfortunately since then it left me with anxiety while driving. It really bothers me given that I am a car fanatic and always dreamed of owning something cool, Plus, the last thing I want is to fear a panic attack every time I get behind the wheel.
Since then, I've just had heightened anxiety in general. I've had one other panic attack in the past (about 5 years ago while we were early in to our relationship) and it left lingering anxiety, but I knew it wasn't permanent. I learned to manage it from the first panic attack, it just took some time. I'm hoping I can start a clean slate and forget the lingering affects of both that happened in the past.
Mental Health Backstory on her end:
To preface this, we both have anxiety/depression in our genetics unfortunately. In fact, her mom spent some time in the hospital when they were young because of how bad it got.
She also apparently had a ton of anxiety from work recently (she's a nurse, I'm in tech).
On my mothers side of the family, my mom, grandma and great grandma have struggled with anxiety their entire lives, some of them taking antidepressants.
Not fun genes for either of us to have, but we persevered!
Our Relationship:
This is what has been getting to me, our relationship was very healthy. We argued probably 2-3 times per year, we spent the majority of days together - as we lived only a 5 minute drive apart. We were both fully a part of each other's families. All of the normal relationship stuff, we were completely engulfed in it. We had also been looking at engagement rings for a bit and ALWAYS talked about our life together.
When I was about 19 before we were together, I used to drunkenly talk about her all of the time to my friends saying "if she ever gets out of the relationship with her boyfriend (at that time) she's the one I'm going for". When I was graduating high school, I went into her class on yearbook day, grabbed her yearbook and wrote my number in it. Long story short, she ended up single and within a month of that happening, we were together.
The "problems" we had over the years that were semi-recurring:
I didn't suggest enough of our plans. I explained to her a number of times that I'd happily go anywhere, I just don't tend to suggest ideas because sometimes she wanted to, other times she didn't. I've lived by the motto "happy wife, happy life" in that relationship, so I tended to go along with whatever she suggested.
We didn't take enough pictures together. I don't really like being in too many pictures and that bothered her.
We didn't travel together enough. This goes back to the anxiety, I hate flying and haven't done it in almost a decade. However, I have an appointment with my doctor in early July where I'm requesting some "emergencies only" anxiety medication to use for that exact scenario. Note - she went on a number of trips over the years with her closest friends. Furthermore, we had done weekend getaways via car together but those apparently don't count. To add, her friends are hopping on planes at least once per month to go somewhere, I think comparison became the thief of joy here.
I didn't tell her I loved her enough or hug her enough. This one is hard for me because I felt like I definitely told her I loved her a lot. She used to occasionally say "do you even love me", semi-joking but also serious, and I always told her of course I did and even though I may not say it a number of times a day, of course I do. I also did a TON of things for her to show how much I cared (ie. she very rarely had to make a lunch for work, I cooked for her almost every day and we don't even live together) The hugging thing is a bit different, as she's always been extremely affectionate and I never really have been. I truly think it comes down to how I was raised, affection just wasn't a huge part of my childhood. (note, that's not a problem for me or anything, I had incredible family/parents, it just wasn't as prominent as it was in her childhood)
I cared a lot about money and how we could set ourselves up to move out. She had taken 5 trips (two of them by train, three by plane) with her friends in the past year and after the 5th one I asked if she planned on slowing down so she could focus on tackling her student debt and so we could start saving to move out, have a wedding etc. Specifically, I wanted us to be in the position where we weren't renting a home, ESPECIALLY given how much money we were making combined. This part kind of confused me because she was the first one to suggest moving out, but when it came time to adjusting the lifestyle to prepare for it, she didn't like the idea. But, I did use it as a crutch for my anxiety to get out of things sometimes and I did open up to her about that. As an example though, I still went with her to the Gucci store and helped her pick out a very expensive purse to celebrate getting her first real nursing job after graduating. I don't feel that I cared about money (especially given the stage we were in in our lives) more than any of my buddies with girlfriends. I wanted us to be set up well for the coming stages of our lives; they were fast approaching. Furthermore, her friends are catching a plane every weekend and are living with their parents but pay cheque to pay cheque with no prospects of ever leaving unless it's renting
The Situation:
About 7-ish weeks ago, a few weeks after my panic attack, my girlfriend was very adamant that we needed to book a trip together. She said we hadn't been on a "real" trip during our relationship (by real, she means getting on a plane). We were sitting down in her bed on my laptop looking at destinations and flights, but I was incredibly anxious about the whole thing. As we were about to book, I broke down and was fully vulnerable to her for one of the first times in the 6 year relationship. I said that I just don't see myself getting onto a plane right now without some kind of medication to calm me down. On top of that, it would stress me out financially a bit, as I'm a full-time masters student and working full time. Plus, it was during my one-week semester break, so I honestly just wanted to relax.
From that day on, our relationship started going downhill. She said she felt extremely disappointed by the whole situation and she couldn't shake the feeling. We then started only hanging out maybe once per week and it was very bland when we did. A couple weeks after that incident, I slept over at her house and I could tell she was genuinely just not happy at that time.
Brief backstory - despite being 26, my mom still gives me a ton of flack if I sleep at her house. It was rare that I got away with it. But, I did it that night anyway because she always asked me to sleep over but I rarely wanted to have to deal with my mom. I thought it would help show her I'm really trying to get better. She also invited me over the following evening and I obviously went.
After that day, I don't think we saw each other for about 2 weeks. I texted her on a Friday evening and said I just don't feel like she wants to be with me anymore. She picked me up so we could talk, and explained that she felt very disappointed about how we were so close to booking the trip and ended up not doing it. She said she needed a break and I was fine with it, I understood where she was coming from.
During this time, I started seeing a therapist. I found one online who was one of the highest rated in my province and was also extremely experienced in marital/pre-marital counselling so I could tell her about the relationship issues I was having along with my anxiety.
Fast forward about 2 more weeks (last weekend) she texted me saying she was ready to talk and picked me up. She said it's probably best if we just end the relationship for the time being. She explained that she felt she had been disappointed a few times over the years and was bottling a lot of things up. She said she needed time to "find herself again" and didn't know if we would get back together at all in the future or not. Then, we sat there talking in her car for another 30 minutes like things were normal so it really threw me off.
I ended up texting her the next day and asked if I could pick her up because I was confused from the night prior since we talked so normally after the breakup conversation. We ended up talking again, sharing some tears and what not, but I kind of understood why she felt she needed to be alone for a bit, even though she didn't know if we would get back together or not. She said that people do this all of the time and sometimes they come back stronger, but if it was meant to be then we'll get back together. I also told her about how much help I'm getting and how I'm setting a goal to take a vacation when I finish my masters in November. She was noticeably happy and asked a lot about how I was talking to my therapist about improving as a person and a (what I thought was soon to be) fiancé. She asked for all of the details about what we talked about in regards to our relationship and was very happy that I was putting that much effort in.
A couple days ago is when she deleted are photos together, but it came right after she posted an Instagram story while out with a friend who has no stability whatsoever. This friend has been on and off with the same guy (who treats her terribly) for as long as we were together. Not to mention, she sleeps around a ton. I can't help but feel like some of this breakup is being influenced by her friends (specifically this one) wanting her to be single like they are out of jealousy or something. Or, they want her to be flying somewhere once a month with them with no plans for the future. My girlfriend has cried to me in the past because she had been brought to places she didn't want to be because her friend wanted to go for a guy. That friend has also been binge drinking several times weekly for years. The following night, her two friends posted a story of her incredibly drunk in the back of a car with her feet out of the window I'm sure in hopes that I would see it. We're grown ass adults, I can't help but feel like that's just not a cool thing to do to your friend in general? I don't care how drunk you are, in fact I expected her to have a night out with her friends and let loose but posting someone else like that is just insanely stupid to me! To put the icing on the cake, one of my long time buddies from high school decided to go for one of her friends and I gave him substantial warnings about her. Within a year, that relationship was completely over with and she was on to the next.
Neither of us were ever the type one to have one-night stands or get around, so I'm not concerned about anything like that during the breakup. If it happens it happens, but I won't be sleeping with anyone until I've put in all of my effort to saving everything we've built. She's only ever been with me and her ex, while I've had a handful more partners before her - but I've experienced enough in my 26 years to know that there was is only one woman for me.
After all of this, I still couldn't shake the feeling that I felt I was being abandoned during the one time in my entire life I've opened up to anyone and really wanted some support. I'm also just having a hard time processing why it happened and how I can salvage it.
I've texted her once per week since the breaks & breakup happened just telling her that I loved her and wished we were going to XYZ events coming up. I also always say in the message that "You don't have to respond or even read it, I just want you to know". I'm having a hard time deciding if I should continue giving her that weekly text or not, but I really do want her to know how much I care and thought we were a dream team.
I just can't help but feel like we had "problems" that were very fixable and were very minor compared to 99% of couples. Her two best friends have had 5+ boyfriends each in the time that we were together and countless one-night stands. Every time they would break up, I'd hear a story from my girlfriend about how terribly they were treated by these guys and we talked about how lucky we are to have each other. There was no forms of jealousy or self-consciousness between us either, neither of us were bothered when we went out alone with our respective friend groups. I also never for a second worried when she travelled with her friends that she'd cheat or something.
This wraps in with why I can't process the breakup. Aside from the few things we argued about here and there (few times a year) it was an incredibly healthy relationship. I had a great relationship with her friends (despite some of the things I've said about them above) and would often times opt to go out drinking with her group over my group of buddies. I acknowledged my shortcomings as a boyfriend (ie. the affection) with my therapist and she's giving me some help with it. Am I crazy for thinking 1. that I can fix what's happened and 2. Part of this breakup might just be her wanting to see how much I actually care?
Anyway, I might add to this if I remember more important points. I just needed to get some of this off my chest. If you've made it this far into my story, thanks for reading!
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2023.05.31 01:23 throwawaydude232 Question about a job I just started…

Throw away for obvious reasons…
Let me start by saying, I plan on at least waiting a few days. But I MUST ask… due to… constipation.
I just started a new job (today) at a small company. I will be in outside sales.
There’s been zero mention of a drug test, but their company policy does show that it is a “drug free work place”.
I understand that to mean that they will most definitely drug test if any injuries occur on the job (workmen’s comp).
Am I in the clear to smoke the devils lettuce again? I haven’t smoked in a month and a half since I got laid off, and haven’t taken a good poop since then either.
I expect not smoking to be the culprit.
It’s hard for me to choose between not pooping, and the most vivid dreams I’ve ever had in my life… (lol)
I should be good in about another week or so after I feel the company out and confirm that they aren’t going to hit me with a drug test to continue my employment, right?
I mean, why wouldn’t they test me before me starting my first day? I thought that was a pre-employment type of thing.
Forgive my ignorance, I was with my last job for a decade, and they only did a mouth swab.
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2023.05.31 01:22 IceParsley24 Unintended consequence of Strike’s call to Robin’s parents?

Apologies if this has been discussed before:
Strike calls Robin’s parents’ home while she’s on her honeymoon, and they assume him to be a journalist
Later in Lethal White while Robin’s house is being watched by press and Mitch Patterson, Strike suggests Robin should stay with her parents, but she declines saying journalists managed to track down her parents home last time anyway
Is this referring to the call from Strike? Was Robin contacted directly in Yorkshire, or is this statement based off what her parents told hetheir assumption?
If not for this incident I wonder if Robin would have been more receptive to staying with her parents to avoid press
While her house is being watched is when she discovers the diamond earring, and the affair
Strike’s call helped end her marriage from miles and months away 😂
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2023.05.31 01:22 JourneyGenesis0 Is having a singular product for a new business acceptable?

Hey everyone,
I'm opening my first business ever within a few months. I'm hoping to have it up and running before the middle of July. I've been constantly reading and waiting for a perfect idea for a few years now, and I'm finally pulling the trigger. (I'm pretty excited)
As it currently stands, I'll only have one single product for sale initially. It's a hardcover journal, size A5, 120gsm paper (the paper should eliminate bleeding / ghosting). I might have two or three colors, but it'll be essentially the same product. I've thought about doing two sizes instead of just one, but currently, I'm planning on just having the one size. Size A5.
Is this off-putting to only have a singular product?
I'd love any and all feedback.
Thank you 😊
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2023.05.31 01:21 throwaway8860072 NJ- Reimbursement for Uber

I was involved in a minor accident, my car was still drivable. The accident was 100% the other driver’s fault (rear end). I am filing the claim with my own insurance company, they will go after the other company for the money.
Here’s the issue: I dropped off my car at the repair shop today to begin repairs, that may take multiple weeks. There was a rental car place 5 minutes down the road so Geico (my insurance) made a reservation with enterprise. I am only 20 years old, but enterprise assured me that they would be able to rent to me, as long as I have a valid credit card for a deposit.
I showed up at the rental car counter and they told me I need to be 25. After informing them it was through insurance, they told me I would be able to rent me a compact car (which is totally fine), but they did not have any compact cars available. So I was stranded at the rental car counter, and all of the rental car agencies in the area were about to close.
Enterprise told me they would call me when a compact car is available but that could be a week or more, and i need a car to get to work. I made a reservation with Hertz for tomorrow who I know from past experience will rent to younger people without issues.
However I had to spend almost $30 on Uber to get home from the rental car place and I will have to spend another $30 to get to hertz tomorrow. My insurance (geico) said due to NJ state law they cannot reimburse me for uber expenses. Considering the accident is not my fault will the other company be able to reimburse me the $60 for uber? The other adjuster (progressive) is out of the office for the next week.
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2023.05.31 01:21 CommonRange8181 (CA) Landlord unreasonably blocked entry and illegally planted cameras in my room while I was away.

The contract with the landlords (an elderly couple) was originally between my naive mother and the landlords. Mother doesn't want to sue despite having access to a lawyer because she's not class-conscious. I believe the landlord has ripped her off by forcing her to pay rent payments in cash each month.
I have a police bodycam video of an officer confronting the landlords with the camera in my bedroom and the male landlord making a bunch of different excuses, female landlord pretending to not know what's going on that I can subpoeana. I have multiple videos of the landlord unreasonably blocking entry to the home/room I was fully paying for on time.
I tried applying for free legal help but I live in LA County now instead of OC County, and each free legal help organization in each county referred me to the other county's organization. I'm a working college student with a little savings account but I don't want to evaporate it if I don't have a legal case that I can win. I don't know if there are "pay only if win" lawyers for civil matters, only seem like that exists for injury lawyers.
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2023.05.31 01:20 worrygurl How do you do it?

I'm a stay at home mom right now. When my oldest was born, I was able to take him to work. Then we moved. I did a daycare out of my home for a bit but it wasn't for me. Now we've moved and my youngest is able to start school a year early. I'm thinking to see about becoming a teacher assistant or some other school staff as I don't know how to handle all the days schools are closed (holidays, teacher planning, half days, winter break, snow days, yada yada yada ya know?). Does my plan sound good? Is there something else I should be looking into? I really want to go back to work but all those extra days off scare me as I don't have family to fall back on and I'm new to the area so won't have friends to fall back on either. I don't want to get a job to have to quit or be fired for missing too many days.
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2023.05.31 01:20 GrizzyMntMan Hold up. $139 receiver software update?

Got a call. Caller ID said "DISH". I answered it, dude was professional sounding. Said he noticed that my receiver was a older model. He asked if I would like for him to do an update on it. I usually don't fall for BS but he was talking stuff that seemed legit. He wanted a password to something concerning the receiver. I had no idea what the PW was. Then he was talking about my discount. I called Dish 2 years ago complaining about something and I managed to get a 2 year discount on the bill and it runs out next month. He knew about that. But he asked me again if I wanted him to do the update. I said sure. He asked me to press the HOME button and asked for the model ID and another number. There was a minute or 2 pause and he came back and said the update was at 80% and I needed to turn my TV off for a minute. That's when it seemed off to me. I said "The TV? What's that got to do with the receiver?". He said it was to complete the update. So I did. THEN he said that there would be a $139 charge on my next bill for the software update. I said, "Hold on, slick. You never mentioned anything about a charge for that.". He said "Well it does cost something". I said "No, sir. You mention that BEFORE you ask if you can do something. You never mentioned a charge until you actually supposedly did it". Then he was talking about other stuff. I said "No. I'm going to talk to Dish tomorrow to figure this out because you are not going to charge me for something like that when you didn't mention it until you did it". And he gave me his name and an I.D that I had to give Dish when I tell them he had called. What the hell? Is this a damn scam or what?
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