To give some context I'm bisexual and wanted to explore more of my sexuality. I had Grindr for like maybe two week and ended up not meeting anyone and deleted it after realizing I trading pics with my sisters fiance. For my pfp I had a femboy pic and then my face fore the second. I'm assuming he seen me and want to have a go with me. He from the start said he dl (down low) and wouldn't show his face. For the time I had Grindr I was mainly just sexting. We quickly just ended up sending pics to each other. Then after I didn't respond for a while he messaged me on a different account. Both accounts showed exactly how far he lives from me and he also told me. I'm a very skeptical person on dating apps, I'm always scared I'm gonna see someone I know. After he switched accounts I went on high alert and went over the pics he sent. The layout from the top of his stairs was very exactly the same to my sisters house (took a pic of it irl and compared). Also my sister love sunflowers and some pics of his fiance's toys had sunflowers on them. I couldn't see why anyone would care what the design are on it, unless they're kinda picky like my sister. I pointed all these things out he freaks out and starts sending me paragraph long text about how it's not him and sends me pics of some guy named Luis, tells me where he lives and works. Out of nowhere he's not DL? Idk what to do since they're getting married this November 

Like of course with their consent. Like if some femboy allows me to use their picture on my steam profile picture, just so I can pretend to be them, is that a bad thing or nah?

Im dating a femboy and i cant find a good pfp for us (im trying to find a dom male x sub male)

For the past few months almost half a year, I have been exploring my gender identity and who I really am as a person, I used to be very masc, went to the gym almost every day to grow my muscles, be as dude bro as I could possibly be, and be around as many cis bro and conservative people as I could, I found out eventually this was all a survival tactic I used to not get harmed or brutally harassed in my childhood and teen years, and exploring myself, I find I enjoy being on the feminine androgynous side, I see femboys online and I love how they do their hair, how they act, and the clothes they wear, princepukex on tiktok (2019-2021 posts) are a huge inspiration for me in terms of my goals to express that side of myself. However recently I feel like I've been falling off of that awakening, for the last 2 1/2 months I haven't had that much motivation to do all the things I want to do to express that side, like dress in up in all the cute and cool clothes I bought, or learn and put on the makeup I bought, there have been times where I have and it was great but those moments are so far and few between. What more curious is I've found myself having that same feeling of inspiration and drive to accomplish a goal towards completely different types of people and characters, most recent example was when I recently finished FullMetal Alchemist and saw the final form of the main villian (it's my pfp) my brain was like "HE IS SO COOL WE SHOULD DO EVERYTHING TO BE THAT!" (this isn't the only example btw this is just the most recent, other examples are people like Markiplier, or characters like Anasui from jojo part 6) and I'll think like, but what about all the work I put in to be cute and fem? Why do I suddenly have the desire to go from cute femboy, to cool long haired masculinity? Like sometimes I feel like I'm Nonbinary Androgynous and other times I feel like I'm completely Masc, sometimes I feel cute and post a cute picture or tiktok of myself and talk in a more feminine manner, and other times I'll just be loud, deep voiced dude making funny or gross noises over Discord, it's weird my goals and my personality and sex and my gender to me seem to be all over the place and I cant understand what I am anymore, I don't even feel like I'm putting my situation into words correctly, I ask my friends but they don't understand because they're all cis het men, they support me but at the same time can't offer any advice, even my Betterhelp therapist is a cis het old male doesn't really know how to tackle it and so changes to a different issue I have, I feel like I'm crazy, I don't even think there's a real answer, and the only advice I've honestly been given is to choose what I wanna be, but I don't what I wanna be, I wanna be all these things, if I had the ability to shapeshift and be all the people and characters I wanna be whenever I wanted I would do it, I've never had the chance to really understand myself at all in life so when left with the decision of who I want to be and what I want to look like, I have no clue, I just don't, what's my gender, what are my preferred pronouns, what body type do I want, what do I want my hair to look like? I just don't know, I want to be like so many completely different people and find who I am in the process. I'm gonna stop this here because I can rant forever about this and this is long enough as it is, I would immensely appreciate any and all advice to help me with this, I'm so lost and any form of guidance would be extremely appreciated, thank you for reading all of this it means a lot.

For the past few months almost half a year, I have been exploring my gender identity and who I really am as a person, I used to be very masc, went to the gym almost every day to grow my muscles, be as dude bro as I could possibly be, and be around as many cis bro and conservative people as I could, I found out eventually this was all a survival tactic I used to not get harmed or brutally harassed in my childhood and teen years, and exploring myself, I find I enjoy being on the feminine androgynous side, I see femboys online and I love how they do their hair, how they act, and the clothes they wear, princepukex on tiktok (2019-2021 posts) are a huge inspiration for me in terms of my goals to express that side of myself. However recently I feel like I've been falling off of that awakening, for the last 2 1/2 months I haven't had that much motivation to do all the things I want to do to express that side, like dress in up in all the cute and cool clothes I bought, or learn and put on the makeup I bought, there have been times where I have and it was great but those moments are so far and few between. What more curious is I've found myself having that same feeling of inspiration and drive to accomplish a goal towards completely different types of people and characters, most recent example was when I recently finished FullMetal Alchemist and saw the final form of the main villian (it's my pfp) my brain was like "HE IS SO COOL WE SHOULD DO EVERYTHING TO BE THAT!" (this isn't the only example btw this is just the most recent, other examples are people like Markiplier, or characters like Anasui from jojo part 6) and I'll think like, but what about all the work I put in to be cute and fem? Why do I suddenly have the desire to go from cute femboy, to cool long haired masculinity? Like sometimes I feel like I'm Nonbinary Androgynous and other times I feel like I'm completely Masc, sometimes I feel cute and post a cute picture or tiktok of myself and talk in a more feminine manner, and other times I'll just be loud, deep voiced dude making funny or gross noises over Discord, it's weird my goals and my personality and sex and my gender to me seem to be all over the place and I cant understand what I am anymore, I don't even feel like I'm putting my situation into words correctly, I ask my friends but they don't understand because they're all cis het men, they support me but at the same time can't offer any advice, even my Betterhelp therapist is a cis het old male doesn't really know how to tackle it and so changes to a different issue I have, I feel like I'm crazy, I don't even think there's a real answer, and the only advice I've honestly been given is to choose what I wanna be, but I don't what I wanna be, I wanna be all these things, if I had the ability to shapeshift and be all the people and characters I wanna be whenever I wanted I would do it, I've never had the chance to really understand myself at all in life so when left with the decision of who I want to be and what I want to look like, I have no clue, I just don't, what's my gender, what are my preferred pronouns, what body type do I want, what do I want my hair to look like? I just don't know, I want to be like so many completely different people and find who I am in the process. I'm gonna stop this here because I can rant forever about this and this is long enough as it is, I would immensely appreciate any and all advice to help me with this, I'm so lost and any form of guidance would be extremely appreciated, thank you for reading all of this it means a lot.

The 16yo femboy that always gets bullied, the 13yo that was transphobic and a sonic-lover that definitely got banned, and the 14yo omori pfp, bi dude.
I don't remember any of their names, but you could tell who they were from their pfp and familiar username, whose names I never cared to memorize.

hewwo, woof!! we are from EU, germany specifically and we are looking for someone (preferably feminine) that we can hang out/play games and be horny with~
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this includes everyone from trans women to cis femboys to non-binary people who are on the feminine side to otherkins that have some connection to femininity, if you're a masculine cis or trans guy, you're okay as long as you use a cute anime girl pfp ;3
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i use pup/pups and it/its pronouns, my gf uses _/_ and it/its pronouns, i'm 25 and _ is 27. sooo, being cool with us being enby and neopronoun users is a requirement, we're generally very open minded with a lot of things as well though
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we are able to hold a conversation so don't worry about two lame ass passive people who just want you to do everything, put in effort and don't get anything back
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for gaming, we really like LoL, TFT & FFXIV & a bunch of single player series like dark souls & fire emblem, we got a wide range of games that we'd love to play with you, like apex legends, valorant, genshin and a bunch more (if you are curious about a game, feel free to ask) we are online pretty much all day so we have a lot of time for you~
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we also really enjoy anime, manga (especially yuri) & art if you wanna talk about that!
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kink, we are both submissive bottoms, we both like petplay, humiliation, cucking and lots of other hard kinks, we're not into receiving/sending pictures
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send a DM with a little info if you'd like to get to know us, i'll send you our discord # and let's vibe and have a good time, let us bark for you, woof!

To preface this, I'm ftm and a femboy, but if I'm not allowed here I'll leave, I just wasn't sure how this subreddit felt about us being femboys.
I was in a femboy server for several months. I posted a couple of selfies there when I joined and talked to a few of the members, but I got a bit inactive on Discord and I already wasn't sure how to talk in this server because it was so big.
I started being active again because of a reason I will not disclose here because it's kind of personal. But then the first time I talk in the server, someone makes fun of my name...and I got mad and I was already getting toxic vibes from that server when I starting lurking properly, so I wanted to leave but I said "eh, it's fine, I'll leave it alone unless someone makes me mad again."
And someone did.
So a racist person joined the server. Racist pfp, racist bio, the whole package. Classic Discord, right? The owner welcomes them to the server when she sees that Discord welcome thing, so I pinged her and said "this person is racist, check their bio".
They tell me to make a report ticket and I ask her why I need to make a report ticket about blatant racism. She said they didn't know who I was talking about and even though IT WAS OBVIOUS, I told her who it was.
They said "fine don't make a ticket" and I'm just like "are you serious?"
And she says "how are my staff supposed to know who to deal with if you don't make a ticket?"
You're the fucking owner. So I'm talking to you. Why can't you click a few buttons?
They clearly just wanted to ignore racism instead of being like "okay I'll take care of them".
Even one of mods were confused!
So I just left. I'm not going to be in a server that doesn't acknowledge racism done to my people. I don't feel safe in places that ignore racism.
I do want to be in another femboy server though, so I was wondering if anyone knew any servers where the owner isn't a passive racist?
(The one I was in was called The Femboy Cafe, btw. Just so I don't get suggested that one. I know it's a big server and it's probably gotten lost in the chat by now)

I wanted to make a post like this for some time. Disclaimer: This is just my experience with reddit and no other social media (altought im sure things like twitter apply) and NOT the outside world. I dont believe this happens outside that much.

Reasons:

The status discrimination
The most common insult right now is people saying that you are a virgin and live with your mother. This is only aimed towards men from what I see. This discriminates and villanizes all men that are unable to get laid due to a mental disorder, a physical problem, or other kind of problems. Which can be seen as ableism.
Shaming based on living with your mother or other family members is classism since affording another house is extremely expensive nowadays. And it also shames you for being of another culture. For example im latino so living with your family for a long time is common. My own father still lives with his mother due to having to take care of her and going through economical problems.
This also pressures men into having sex. It seems impossible to people that a man could not want to have sex and therefore he is "coping".
The body shaming
Men get body shamed relentlessly. Something that doesnt happen much to women on reddit. I have seen women get body shamed on reddit, but to a much lesser extent. Usually due to them being overweight.
Men dont only get shamed for that, but also for things like being bald, being short, small penis, femenine features, etc.
Bodyshaming a woman might get you called an incel or be told that "its natural", this doesnt happen when bodyshaming men.
I have heard women say that being hairy is natural so they shouldnt shave... well, being bald or short is also natural...
Many double standards on this.
The villanization and the incel word
This one is so common. I assume you guys know what Im talking about. Internet became a ground to hunt bigots and get some "im a hero" points. People seem to want to insult others and be an asshole, but they want to do that towards someone that they think deserves it.
Nobody wants to be an asshole towards a crippled person. But towards a racist? Its open ground. The problem with this is that these people cant find enough racist people, so they take what you say out of context or interpret it however they want and then assume you are bigoted so they can say your dick is small.
This is done a lot on reddit, in particular by calling you an incel. I have been called incel like.. 6 or more times I think? And none made any sense. Reasons I have been called an incel that I remember:

• Being asexual. So people dont believe a man can be asexual and im just a coping incel.
• Saying we should virgin shame others (I have pics as proof).
• Saying that looks matter to some extent. (The people that dont believe me proceed to bodyshame).
• Saying that we should treat everyone equally (I have pics as proof).
• Saying that you can be called an incel without being misogynist.
• Having a templar pfp (I just like the meme).
• Being lonely due to mental illness.

I dont remember more, but you can see my point. If you want, browse through all my comments and you will never find misogyny or incel slangs. I rarely insult people at all. I might call someone an idiot from time to time. But I usually try to be respectful towards everyone.
So people just call you an incel so they can bodyshame you, shame you by status or something.
Villanization is extremely common towards all genders I would say, but especially towards men. Just go and read a man complain about literally anything that is not getting raped and people will blame him.
I have browsed subs like TrueOffMyChest and many controversial (in the searching sense, not that they were really controversial) were men venting about being lonely. And the comments of course blaming the man. Which leads to my next point.
Its always men fault
Men always get the blame when something happens. I can make some examples.

• If you are lonely, its your fault, no matter what.
• Men are more likely to get killed, but its by other men so its your fault (even though you dont have the power to alterate the entire society).
• If the woman is not pleased during sex, its your fault. If you are not pleased during sex, its your fault.
• Relationships problems? Its mens fault.

This is ironically also misogynist because it implies that women are helpless and cant do things by themselves.
The disdain towards masculinity
It seems that its bad for some people to be masculine. I dont have much information on this, but trans men have complained about being othered due to now becoming masculine by some lgbt members.
Transphobia
This one might sound weird, but reddit is filled with transphobia, especially against trans women. I fully believe trans women are women. But what Im trying to say is that the misandry is so high, that many people see trans women as men with a fetish or a porn addiction. Those people being mostly in the right, but there are also TERFs.
The left and the right against mentally ill men
After browsing for some time, I have concluded. Some leftists hate me due to being a virgin, not interested in sex or "sodomizing femboys" (tf). It seems like its shameful nowadays to be prude or straight. I dont understand why sexualizing women is wrong but sexualizing femboys is fine...
Most on the right hate me due to also being a virgin, and due to not being an "alpha male" or something.
Both sides seem to care too much about appearance. It seems like some leftists want you to be sexy so they can masturbate with you. And some on the right want you to look like an alpha so they can make you their leader.
Of course, being mentally ill makes being any of those difficult.
People are simply more aggresive towards white men
I have seen someone being called an incel and when they said they were a woman they retracted. I also see people defending black people to the death. It makes no sense, people should care about the character, intentions, their values. Not their race or gender.
I get accused of being white when Im latino. It seems like everytime a man speaks on internet people imagine them as a fat, white, male incel or something.
Men cannot complain
No need to elaborate much. People hate when you complain and blame you.
Shame on hobbies
I always hear women saying that they cant do anything without being shamed, but I never see that. Its men who get shamed due to their hobbies.
Dont believe me? Use an anime pfp and say something against the norm. And you will see.
Its ridiculous because I have seen so many women like anime and even some told me they watch hentai. But apparently if a man does so he is an incel.
It seems that if you, as a man, do anything that is not a sport. You are a virgin.
How to solve this?
You dont. Just remember that the people that speak on the internet are like 1%. Sure, it hurts when a tweet that has 120K likes saying that all short men should get aborted. But it doesnt matter, you cant fight the people on the internet, they will never agree with you. Just remember that people outside are usually better.
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I would like to study this deeply but I dont know how. And I kind of think its a waste of time.

Si pasas de leer este perfil y piensas en agregarme debes tomar nota de estas reglas (estas reglas son las que me gustan cuando voy a agregar amigos)
Me gusta la gente que se preocupa por mí. (me refiero a las personas que al iniciar una conversación antes de que digas algo te preguntan cómo estás al instante) (hago eso todo el tiempo pero estoy cansado de ver personas que cuando les preguntas esto te dicen bien y se olvidan de tu existencia, si eres como esos por favor no me agregues)
Me gusta la gente que me invita a juegos cuando estoy libre. (Me gusta invitar gente a juegos todo el tiempo, pero se vuelve aburrido cuando eres el único que lo hace y nadie más que yo)
Me gusta la gente que no es tóxica y respeta la comunidad LGTBIQ+ (no sé si me olvido de alguna letra si me lo dicen) y otro tipo de movimientos democráticos que no son homofóbicos ni racistas.... *
Me gusta la gente que habla en ingles no en otros idiomas si hablas en mi idioma nativo español (o en otro) seras borrado
* Esta lista con notas irá aumentando. * esta nota es obligatoria de seguir si no la sigues serás borrado.
Estado: la sociedad cristiana apesta, quiero ser un juguete sexual para mi papá si existe. Edad: 19 Sexualidad: Gay (pasivo, rope bunnie) (y sí, lo adivinaste, soy un femboy, uno de verdad) (y publicaré una foto de mis muslos o mi cara cuando llegue mi material femboy) (llegará en Navidad) Regla oculta (obligatoria): si me agregas para erp, o tratas de obligarme a estar cachondo o tener erp, te eliminaré y bloquearé, así que no intentes agregarme si tienes esa idea. (y sé que mi pfp es hentai gay, pero eso no significa que deba estar ♥♥♥♥♥ cachondo ♥♥♥♥♥ que necesita erp todo el ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ tiempo)