Factory connection pittsburg tx

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2023.05.31 11:53 Tall_Acadia526 Please help me !!

I turned on my pc to find that for some reason it can't find my home network. I have tried everything from factory resetting it to updating my drivers, yet I still can't connect to the WiFi. My pc runs on Windows 10. My cpu is intel core i5 2400. I hasn't messed with the settings previously and it has been over a week with no change now. I would greatly appreciate any help as I can't afford to have a professional look at it right now.
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2023.05.31 11:00 JeffLais NEW: [Package 2023_TTRS_3] for all THRUSTMASTER FFB WHEELS is now available

NEW: [Package 2023_TTRS_3] for all THRUSTMASTER FFB WHEELS is now available

NEW: [Package 2023_TTRS_3] for all THRUSTMASTER FFB WHEELS is now available

https://preview.redd.it/acq0qajva63b1.png?width=1300&format=png&auto=webp&s=297b52619babbfc9416a4ff98f0bb7abb45ab7d9
Changes made in new driver version [2023_TTRS_3]:
1) Added new firmware for all Thrustmaster Xbox Force Feedback wheels.
* TMX - new Firmware V19
* T128-X - new Firmware V5.03
* T248-X - new Firmware V2.03
* TX - new Firmware V58.06
* TS-XW - new Firmware V8.07
== Fixed a force feedback major issue in upcoming Xbox games = it is highly recommended to update your Xbox steering wheel base with this new firmware version!

2) Added new firmware for the T818 base:
* T818 base - new Firmware V5.72:
== Improvement: New self-calibration phase (when the base is turned on) + auto-spring effect removal
== New feature: T818 Control Panel Slider in Settings [ADJUSTMENT OF THE FORCE FEEDBACK LINEARITY]
++ LINEARITY = 0% : Is fully linear, it is the same setting as in the previous firmware V5.20
++ LINEARITY > 0% : This reduces the dynamic range of the small forces, a lower setting will be close to linearity, a higher setting will lower small force leading to a quieter steering in straight line (as example : it could reduce fatigue during long distance single seater race)
== For safety, the Force Feedback is now stopped if a T818 Quick Release Adapter or a T818 Native Connector is not attached to the base
== Other improvements

3) Added new firmware for the T818 Quick Release Adapter (CAN):
* T818 CAN - new Firmware V2.12:
== Allow to update the SF1000 rim even if a T818 QUICK RELEASE ADAPTER is attached (when the SF1000 rim is directly connected to the PC with the USB to USB-C cable)

4) Improvements, on PC (for all Thrustmaster PC Wheels) of the self-calibration phase
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2023.05.31 10:56 Jeakjeak Secondhand Prusa Mini+ Advice

I've recently purchased a secondhand Prusa Mini+ with filament sensor - it's my first 3d printer and it seems in pretty good condition (the previous owner only printed 10~ prints).
It didn't come with the initial USB for updating the firmware, nor an USB cables for connecting it to my PC.
I was wondering if I should do a factory reset so I can set everything up from scratch and have the printer go through all of the testing processes that run during the setup wizard. I am tentative to run it in case it asks me to update the firmware again via the USB that I don't have.
Any advice would be hugely appreciated please..!
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2023.05.31 10:52 JeffLais NEW: [Package 2023_TTRS_3] for all THRUSTMASTER FFB WHEELS is now available

NEW: [Package 2023_TTRS_3] for all THRUSTMASTER FFB WHEELS is now available

https://preview.redd.it/4my33s0p963b1.png?width=1300&format=png&auto=webp&s=be67fa9b629424af3e2138a30cc4c65466187cd9
Changes made in new driver version [2023_TTRS_3]:
1) Added new firmware for all Thrustmaster Xbox Force Feedback wheels.
* TMX - new Firmware V19
* T128-X - new Firmware V5.03
* T248-X - new Firmware V2.03
* TX - new Firmware V58.06
* TS-XW - new Firmware V8.07

== Fixed a force feedback major issue in upcoming Xbox games = it is highly recommended to update your Xbox steering wheel base with this new firmware version!


2) Added new firmware for the T818 base:
* T818 base - new Firmware V5.72:
== Improvement: New self-calibration phase (when the base is turned on) + auto-spring effect removal
== New feature: T818 Control Panel Slider in Settings [ADJUSTMENT OF THE FORCE FEEDBACK LINEARITY]
++ LINEARITY = 0% : Is fully linear, it is the same setting as in the previous firmware V5.20
++ LINEARITY > 0% : This reduces the dynamic range of the small forces, a lower setting will be close to linearity, a higher setting will lower small force leading to a quieter steering in straight line (as example : it could reduce fatigue during long distance single seater race)
== For safety, the Force Feedback is now stopped if a T818 Quick Release Adapter or a T818 Native Connector is not attached to the base
== Other improvements

3) Added new firmware for the T818 Quick Release Adapter (CAN):
* T818 CAN - new Firmware V2.12:
== Allow to update the SF1000 rim even if a T818 QUICK RELEASE ADAPTER is attached (when the SF1000 rim is directly connected to the PC with the USB to USB-C cable)

4) Improvements, on PC (for all Thrustmaster PC Wheels) of the self-calibration phase
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2023.05.31 10:48 JeffLais NEW: [Package 2023_TTRS_3] for all THRUSTMASTER FFB WHEELS is now available

NEW: [Package 2023_TTRS_3] for all THRUSTMASTER FFB WHEELS is now available

NEW: [Package 2023_TTRS_3] for all THRUSTMASTER FFB WHEELS is now available


https://preview.redd.it/pvdiass5963b1.png?width=1300&format=png&auto=webp&s=59bc3b9cbea2ef70c161c14cda9284504d601f0d
Changes made in new driver version [2023_TTRS_3]:
1 Added new firmware for all Thrustmaster Xbox Force Feedback wheels.)
\) TMX - new Firmware V19
\) T128-X - new Firmware V5.03
\) T248-X - new Firmware V2.03
\) TX - new Firmware V58.06
\) TS-XW - new Firmware V8.07
== Fixed a force feedback major issue in upcoming Xbox games = it is highly recommended to update your Xbox steering wheel base with this new firmware version!

2 Added new firmware for the T818 base:)
\) T818 base - new Firmware **V5.72**:
== Improvement: New self-calibration phase (when the base is turned on + auto-spring effect removal)
== New feature: T818 Control Panel Slider in Settings \ADJUSTMENT OF THE FORCE FEEDBACK LINEARITY])
++ LINEARITY = 0% : Is fully linear, it is the same setting as in the previous firmware V5.20
++ LINEARITY > 0% : This reduces the dynamic range of the small forces, a lower setting will be close to linearity, a higher setting will lower small force leading to a quieter steering in straight line (as example : it could reduce fatigue during long distance single seater race)
== For safety, the Force Feedback is now stopped if a T818 Quick Release Adapter or a T818 Native Connector is not attached to the base
== Other improvements

3 Added new firmware for the T818 Quick Release Adapter (CAN):)
\) T818 CAN - new Firmware **V2.12**:
== Allow to update the SF1000 rim even if a T818 QUICK RELEASE ADAPTER is attached (when the SF1000 rim is directly connected to the PC with the USB to USB-C cable)

4 Improvements, on PC (for all Thrustmaster PC Wheels) of the self-calibration phase)
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2023.05.31 09:50 Novelty3D USB data transfer not working with Pixel 4a

I've not been able to transfer data via USB on my Pixel 4a since the start of the month. I've tried multiple cables, multiple computers, reboots, cleaning out the port, changing the settings to accept data transfer by default and nothing seems to make any difference.
I feel like the next step is a factory reset (everything's backed up but I don't really fancy it, and I don't think this sounds like a software problem), or replacing the USB port. Has anyone had a similar issue and found another solution, or does replacing the USB port sound like a good idea?
Thank you!
EDIT: I forgot to mention in Windows when I use a USB C to USB C cable with an error "USB device not recognised - The last USB device you connected to this computer malfunctioned, and Windows does not recognise it."
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2023.05.31 09:31 sea__weed Register a service to be resolved from a particular scope using Microsoft DI

I am working on an application that processes messages received from a client connection onto an in-memory queue. I want to be able to have message scoped dependencies such that the message processors created for a message can use shared dependencies, but are isolated from message processors created for other messages.
I do this by creating a scope from the ServiceScopeFactory for the connection, and another one nested within for each message picked up from the queue.
The problem I've run into is that some dependencies need to always be created from the outer scope representing the connection.
Does anyone have a suggestion how I could register a service such that it always resolves from the outer scope?
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2023.05.31 09:29 seenliving use SFP+ port as uplink port?

I got a Juniper EX3300-48P network switch off of eBay, factory reset it and set it up in my office/lab. I'm trying to use one of the SFP+ ports as the uplink, but the main switch (and network) is not accessible while the SFP+ uplink is connected to a SFP+ port and while testing (pinging) from a device on one of the 48 Cat6 ports. I run an uplink Cat6 from the main switch to the Juniper switch and the main switch (and network) is accessible while testing from a device on one of the 48 Cat6 ports. This led me to believe the 48 cat6 ports and 4 SFP+ ports are segmented, but when connecting both the cat6 and SFP+ uplink cables from the main switch to the Juniper switch I get a network loop (and the whole network suffers network connectivity issues).
How do I get it so one of the SFP+ ports can act as an uplink port?

P.S. - In previous testing, SFP+/10 GbE devices were able to connect successfully when connected to the SFP+ ports on this Juniper switch, so I know it's not a compatibility issue with the transceivers and /or main switch.
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2023.05.31 08:56 jm-wireharness The History and Future Development of Automotive Ethernet

The History and Future Development of Automotive Ethernet

History and Development of Automotive Ethernet

In IT, Ethernet has a long and extremely successful history. Invented in 1973 and standardized by the Institute of Electrical and Electronics Engineers (IEEE) in 1985, Ethernet has since come to dominate local area networks used in business and fend off competition from all other competing technologies such as Token Ring. For decades, Ethernet has proven to be a versatile and flexible standard network that drives advancements in communications. Different versions of Ethernet run on coaxial cables, fiber optics, and unshielded twisted pair wires, and speeds have also increased from 10M bit/s to over 100G bit/s. After decades of application, people's understanding of Ethernet
The solution is already very adequate and a good improvement has been made.
As the in-vehicle network begins to connect more in-vehicle computing resources, the application of Ethernet has become a natural choice, so in 2016, IEEE released the first automotive Ethernet standard IEEE 802.3bw, or 100Base-T1. Although 100M bit/s bandwidth is comparable to 100Base-TX introduced in 1995, there are still key differences in the automotive version.
Both of these standards run on unshielded twisted pair, which is two copper wires twisted together along the length of the cable. This has the effect of producing less electromagnetic radiation and crosstalk, avoiding interference with other wires or components, and resisting interference from other sources.
However, 100Base-TX uses two twisted pairs, whereas Automotive Ethernet uses only one pair, resulting in lower weight and cost. This pair of wires is "balanced", meaning that the signals have equal but opposite voltages. Both the transmit signal and the receive signal are conducted on one set of twisted pairs, instead of using two different sets of twisted pairs like 100Base-TX.
In the 100Base-TX standard, a maximum length of 100 meters is also specified, which is followed by subsequent Ethernet standards. Automotive Ethernet has a specified maximum length of only 15 meters. Clearly, automotive applications do not require long distances between network components in the car, and the shorter the length, the lighter the wiring.
Another key difference is the encoding done by the transceivers at both ends of the cable.
The 100Base-TX standard uses Multi-Level Baseband Coding (MLT-3), which encodes bits on the wire by cycling through three voltage levels, while Automotive Ethernet uses three-level Pulse Amplitude Modulation (PAM- 3), By bit-encoding the amplitude of the signal pulse, more bits can be encoded in each clock cycle. Combined with other encoding techniques, the final frequency can be reduced from 125 MHz to 66.6 MHz, again helping to prevent EMI and crosstalk.
Automotive Ethernet

Subsequent Developments in Automotive Ethernet

The 100M bit/s of the IEEE 802.3bw standard can satisfy many basic automotive applications, so it is widely used today. But higher speeds will be required as engineers consider higher-definition video streaming and the aggregation of data from multiple sensors onto common cables.
Shortly after IEEE 802.3bw was finalized, the IEEE officially ratified the 802.3bp standard, or 1000Base-T1, which enables gigabit speeds over shielded or unshielded twisted-pair wire. This standard shares much in common with its predecessor, but at a frequency nearly 10 times higher, at 600 MHz. This means the cables are more susceptible to crosstalk, so engineers need to design systems with special care to control electromagnetic noise throughout the vehicle, rigorously testing and shielding where required. The standard will provide sufficient bandwidth for the next two to three generations of platforms.
In 2020, IEEE formulated the 802.3ch standard, which can also support Gigabit Ethernet at standard rates such as 2.5G bit/s, 5G bit/s and 10G bit/s within a distance of 15 meters. Shielded twisted pair cables will be sufficient for the above transmission speeds, but frequencies above 7 GHz may require shielded parallel pair cables to minimize EMI issues.

Automotive Data Connection Harness Supplier - Junmei Electronics

Dongguan Junmei Electronics Co., Ltd. is specializing in the development, manufacture and sales of HSD Connector, electronic wiring harnesses, industrial wiring harnesses, medical and beauty side wiring, and connector. We have produced and supplied a large num ber of high-performance wire harness products, and we will strive to provide high-performance wire harness products and innovative solutions for various industries.
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2023.05.31 08:28 stress691 WAN IP setting (misconfiguration)

Hi all. A question about setting WAN IP, when incorrect WAN setting is applied. I have remote OC200, to which I have access by tplinkcloud. Im setting all the gateways through it. I'm making primary configuration in the main office, where WAN IP is given by DHCP. I'm then putting WAN parameters given by the provider to the gateways and going to the branch office. But what in the case, when I will make incorrect WAN settings? Gateway will not connect to the OC200, as it is remote and will have no internet access. What should I do in tha case? Reset to factory, set the parameters without adoption, make changes in the oc200 and readopt? Or is it easier way? Thanks!
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2023.05.31 08:06 telepe555 Idk where to start to get this issue solved

Hi everyone! My phone is a S23 ultra and it has been giving me issues for about 2 weeks ago with connectivity. My phone will say it has full bars of reception but it won't make a call or send a text. Sometimes it'll say it's connected to 5G data but then it'll say it isn't connected to the internet. I had similar issues in February and I got the sub-PBA replaced via an authorized repair shop under warranty. Since similar issues are happening again, I took it to the same shop and they did a diagnostic check - the phone was fine hardware-wise. Because of the issues I'm having, they think it might be either a motherboard issue or a software issue. The shop can't replace the motherboard due to warranty and my carrier shop tried replacing my regular SIM to an eSIM but that hasn't solved anything either. For the software side, I tried factory resetting my phone and then updating it but the same problem persists. Could use some help or suggestions on how to circumvent the issue since the phone warranty is expired. Thanks!
Tl:dr - phone is having connection issues to both internet and cellular reception even though the phone says it is connected to eitheboth. Had sub-PBA replaced in February but issues are coming up again. The repair shop says might be motherboard or software-related.
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2023.05.31 07:32 pman92 Macbook Air Internet Recovery - server cannot be contacted

I'm trying to help a friend factory reset their Macbook Air High Sierra since they have sold it. It seems they have already wiped it, but we can boot up into internet recovery. However when we select "reinstall macOS" it hangs for a minute and then we get "the recovery server cannot be contacted".
I have checked and updated the system time using "ntpdate -u time.apple.com" and checked it is correct using the "date" command.
We are connected via wifi, and I have changed the routers DNS servers to google DNS (since that previously helped with a similar problem I had with another macbook).
I can use Network Utility to ping servers successfully which confirms the internet connection is working.
WTF do we do now? I'm glad I dont use a macbook myself. This is the 2nd of 2 macbooks I have ever laid hands on, both of which seemed to be playing incredibly difficult to factory reset. It's almost like apple don't want people to factory reset them to sell on the 2nd hand market.
Thanks in advance
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2023.05.31 06:46 notabot-i-promise iP

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2023.05.31 06:41 avengersecurityalarm Important Guidelines for Home Security Houston No Contract

Only some have the same needs, yet everyone wants to safeguard their property. A security camera system is an excellent way to keep an additional eye on your home at all times. Because the layout of your property, budget, and home security priorities varies from your neighbors, there is no one-size-fits-all guideline for security camera minimums. If you intend to install home security in Houston no contract, there are a few things you should consider before installing CCTV cameras in your workplace or house.

Coverage area

When building the CCTV and security system in Houston, consider which areas are most vulnerable and should be protected. The company from whom you will purchase the CCTV cameras in Tomball will send an analyst to assist you in determining the most practicable position to put the camera and obtain optimal coverage. You can also choose the specific region that the camera should cover.

CCTV camera options

Wireless CCTV cameras in The Woodlands are becoming the most often utilized camera technology. These cameras eliminate the need for cables and are simple to operate. Traditional cameras are stationary and only point in one direction. Dome cameras in corporate buildings and shopping malls give 360-degree coverage surrounding them. As a result, cameras must be chosen based on the quality and coverage required.

Location

The CCTV cameras you choose will also be determined by the region in which they will be installed. The quality of a camera placed outside your house or workplace will not be the same as that of an inside camera.
Today's robbers are skilled at dodging outside cameras, and even total area coverage may be overcome by masked attackers. Installing a low-light dome camera indoors might save you a lot of bother in the long run.

Permissions

Before installing CCTV in Conroe, you may need formal clearance from the appropriate authorities. If you wish to put CCTV cameras outside your home, they will cover a section of the surrounding region. Most residential conies require you to notify the local government before installing them and be careful to get authorization from the civic authority before installing anything.

Cameras should be strategically placed for optimal observation

As said previously, always position the cameras so that they can see the area you want to survey. Placing them at the corners of your structures, for example, may create spots and limit the views of your cameras.

Consider your lighting

Ascertain that the area to be monitored has constant and adequate illumination for the camera to pick up identifiable characteristics, such as facial features. Consider utilizing a night-vision CCTV camera when there is insufficient lighting.

Seek expert guidance or assistance

You may be able to build a modest system for your house, and it may be enough, but expert installers live and breathe video surveillance. When it comes to establishing a CCTV system for your house in Cypress, but especially for your company, they are specialists and will know things to do and check for that you probably will not. Consider drawing on their knowledge and skills if you need to hire them to do the task. When considering your time and work, hiring a professional surveillance camera installer may save you money.

Use only wired security cameras

Only install a wireless camera system in Humble if you have a considerable budget since a commercial grade of this type may be fairly pricey. Furthermore, the purpose of video monitoring is to boost security. At the same time, wireless technology has improved but is still more "hackable" than a wired camera system.

Conclusion

Considering the following ideas will assist you in installing home security Houston no contract without difficulty. If you've opted to install CCTV cameras, look for modern IP cameras that can quickly connect to a wireless network. However, scaling may be tough if you still have the old CCTV cameras.
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2023.05.31 05:37 Suspicious-Olive9183 28 [M4F] #Houston #Tx Looking for bbw or chubby women to connect with and get along and possibly meet

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We can exchange pics and talk more, just upvote and send me a message :)
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2023.05.31 05:32 Dumgard Help! Black Screen when connected to PC

I have a 32E5600 that I'm trying to connect to my PC. When connected, it goes to a black screen and says signal is weak.. but the same HDMI cable works fine with multiple other devices at higher resolution.
I've tried changing the resolution down on the pc to 1280x720 since the resolution listed when I check the specs on google shows 1366x768. I've also tried doing a factory reset on the TV, and making sure I plug in the HDMI cord to the TV first as recommended in a video.
Does anyone have any suggestions on what else I could do?
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2023.05.31 05:07 Xarkar Orbit Bhyve - Date wrong on controller, correct on app.

First off my main problem is that programs will not run on schedule. All programs will run manually if i start them, and they will run if i set the program on specific days. However, if i set it to an interval they will simply not run.

IE i set my zone to run every other day and the calander will show it is to start but wont run.

I think i have found the issue. In the App the day is correct, (today 5/30/2023 TUES). On the controller itself it says 5/30/2023 WED. I have factory reset the controller, and deleted it from app, deleted app, basically set up as a new controller.
I tried manually setting the date on controller, and the day was correct. (Tuesday). As soon as i connected the controller to the APP, it changed the day to Wed (still shows 5/30/2023, but wrong day)

So i think what is happening is it thinks it is supposed to water on a tuesday, but the controller is thinking it is wednsday so nothing waters.
Any ideas? Everything is up to date, and factory reset so honestly I am at a loss and frankly annoyed (worked fine last year)
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2023.05.31 04:52 Salt-Spring1264 20F TX/Anywhere- Looking for a Connection

Hi, I decided to try posting and seeing what happens. I’m looking for someone who I can get to know and grow close to.
I enjoy watching anime (finishing up AOT and open to more recs), playing games,and reading ☺️
Another thing, I prefer voice calls over texting. It’s not something I would expect 24/7, but getting on a call early on would be nice.
regarding preferences, I don’t really have any honestly. I care more about personalities and how we vibe.
Anyway, if any of this sounds good to you, feel free to dm me with at least your age and where you’re from!
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2023.05.31 04:49 Illustrious_Owl6515 《Horizontal Wire 358 Security Fence: Uncompromising Protection and Durability》

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2023.05.31 04:44 HayashiAkira_ch For my father

Hey dad.
You died almost two years ago and this is the first time I’m actually saying (typing?) words that are directed at and meant for you since then. The last time we talked, I was your new employee in the family business, and I was asking if we worked on a specific brand of appliances I hadn’t heard of. Two hours later, Maddie called to tell me you had collapsed in the shower on vacation. An hour after that, my grandparents told me that you were gone.
I have not cried for you. I don’t think you would have wanted me to- you hated seeing me cry, not because it showed I was hurt, but because boys shouldn’t cry. I remember as a kid of just 11, sparring at judo one night, I got punched and my nose bled. I didn’t cry, and you told me you were proud of me and took me to my favorite fast food restaurant after. Strangely though, I haven’t held back tears either. There simply aren’t any for me to cry.
The truth is that while I felt sad, yes, I didn’t feel the level of grief others did. You and I were friendly, but we weren’t close. These days when I think of our relationship, I don’t deny that you loved me- you were my father, and I am your son. The bond of family was there, and something resembling the love that comes from that existed. However, the more I think about it, the more I feel that while you loved me, you didn’t particularly like me.
I didn’t succeed the way other kids did. I had no interest in sports, no real interest in the “normal” things that kids my age did. An adult diagnosis of being on the autism spectrum made me realize that you probably knew that I wouldn’t think and behave like other children. Making sense of my memories I realize how hard you tried to “fix” me. Forcibly putting me into athletics (though only those that passed your approval), denying me a spot in specialized programs at school for kids with learning disabilities or difficulties socializing, replacing that instead with talks about what I was supposed to be as the sole male child in the family. I think you saw a happier me on the horizon if I could just “get it” the way you and many others did.
I never did “get it” though. By middle school you gave up, and your attention turned to my overachieving little sister. That hurt our bond as siblings quite a bit and we fought, loudly and often. I am glad to say now that my relationship with my sisters is closer than any other in my life and I consider someone who was an enemy to me to now be my greatest friend.
There was a single bond we shared growing up- music. You told me that even after 40 years of being in the appliance business, you still considered yourself a musician before any other profession. My fondest childhood memories with you are the trips we’d take to concerts. I’d always make a mixtape, usually taken with a lukewarm reception, and you’d regale me with stories of the days of Led Zeppelin and Black Sabbath. We’d go to the show and on the way home, we’d give our thoughts as you would teach me about the science behind sound mixing and making live performances possible.
I taught myself every instrument I could get my hands on. I learned every old prog rock song I could. I diversified my music taste beyond what you’d ever thought someone could. I did genuinely love all of it- but part of me thinks I did it because music was the one lonely connection you and I had.
Your anger would make even that difficult. Though you only laid your hands on me once, a 30 minute stretch of a night that it took a year of therapy to process, the feeling of walking on eggshells never left. And despite this, I tried ever so hard to earn your approval, and failed every step of the way.
My stint in factory work ended in me getting laid off.
My attempt at a military career ended with a ten day vacation in the psych ward (an admittedly lovely place, to my surprise).
I was never good with money (but then again, neither were you).
I was never particularly strong, popular, and never did reach that point of normal.
But I tried and tried to get you to look my way, even going so far as to enter the family business. Then three months later, you were gone, and the truth about your life came out.
The affairs, drugs, hidden caches of money meant to go to your mistress. You purchasing an entire home for a woman your daughter’s age that you started sleeping with when she was barely past 18. All the times you flew into a wild rage at even the slightest hint my mom had an unfaithful thought, and yet you were out lavishing other women with gifts. Our family went bankrupt and nearly lost everything, and the entire time you had $50,000 in cash hidden in a box in our garage with a deposit slip with that woman’s name on it.
You grew up with a man just as unfaithful, who would sleep with a younger woman and come home to beat his wife and kids all in one day. You hated him, and yet you embodied so much of what made him wretched.
Was the family you had never enough? You had a wife that looked 15 years younger than her age. You had kids who would stress themselves out to the point of breaking down to make sure you were happy at home. You had one of the most successful businesses in your industry. Did none of it make you happy?
The truth now is that I know I couldn’t earn your approval. I never would have. No career, no musical skill, no amount of money could ever had made you happy to have me as a son.
I look at myself now and see, deep under the surface, qualities of you. We look just alike, our bodies identical. I feel that rage you felt too- the frustration with everything happening, knowing your life didn’t go the way you wanted it to. I make remarks that come across more sharply than I intend sometimes. I raise my voice, I curse at traffic, I tap my fingers on the surface of tables and the steering wheel like I’m playing the drums. All habits I learned from you. And I still walk on eggshells today so that those qualities stay buried deep down in me and never come out. I still tiptoe around conversations because I’m afraid you’ll come alive again through the words I say and the acts I commit.
I am tired of trying to earn the approval of a cheater who I buried two years ago. I am tired of having conversations in my head where our talks aren’t tense and awkward, like we barely know each other.
I do not need your approval anymore. I never did. I just want to be happy, and the more of you I embody, the harder that seems to be.
I don’t hate you, and I never will. But I am not going to beat myself to death for a man who wouldn’t notice until the moment I fell over dead from it.
I hope wherever you are, it can make you better, and that one day you will return to this world to live the life you desperately wanted to live.
Goodbye. -Your son
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2023.05.31 04:31 Scarline809 Deeper Network SE Device

So as of early yestrday morning my Ethernet connection went out entire network. Today i factory rested my router and i noticed it works good with out the deeper Network connected to it when I add it it works for couple minutes and then it stops and drops all my connections do i have to reset it as well what can I do in this case to get it up and running with my network
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2023.05.31 04:23 Disastrous-Studio-86 22M Tx looking for someone to connect with

I don’t have any friends it’s a hard pill to swallow but true I know I’m a funny chill guy I wish I had opportunity to be myself around someone 24/7 constantly pretending it’s exhausting.
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