Ok, we have heard all the daughte mother in law fights. And so, hold on to your seats, here goes mine. this one is going to be a bit long. I 43F have 2 sons. 25M and 15M My oldest let call him Sant. got into a relationship "Sue" 24F. Sue has a 6yo daughter. When I first met them they were both shy. But my husband 46M "tim" and I got super close to this little girl. It wasn't hard to get attached to her so quickly since she's absolutely adorable. And love her as our own granddaughter. My son's girlfriend in the other hand is a whole different story. Like I said in the beginning she was super shy. We tried to get close to her especially since we always wanted a daughter and weren't blessed with one so I figured I'll give it go with her. We only had 1 thing in common (makeup). But yet it just wasn't enough for her to hang out , talk, or have a full conversation with us. We tried, but was ignored over and over with her head down on her phone. Or responded with quick answers just to walk away after. About 1 year into their relationship they moved in together here in my home. Plan was they where suppose to save up to get married and buy a house. Yes they were to pay a small fee of rent here and help out with groceries. And help out with chores. 3 months into them living with us their fighting got out of control! I'm talking yelling on top of their lungs to each other! Pushing shoving, screaming and insults. We talked and pleaded with them to stop for the the baby's sake. Since she was clearly terrified with all that. but with in 1 year she moved in and out of my home 3 times. Until she finally left. (So i thought) Few months of her being gone. Her family kicked her out. And had no support from her family. Of coarse we thought of the baby. So we asked them to try it again here in out home. Thinking 100% for the babys sake. Now you may be asking ok, so why was she kicked out of my home? Well, I can't remember once Sue picking up her plate after she ate. Not once have I ever seen her holding a broom duster or a mop. My son's room turned into a complete dungeon. You couldn't even see the floor! It was smelly and dirty all the time. And no matter how many times I would ask them to help out and atleast clean the room I was ignored. Rent stop coming in no help financially or domestic was coming in. Like none At all. My son was the only one who cooked clean to care of her daughter. Yes fed her babysat her while she went out with friends. He was literally a single parent to her. She goes out comes home the next day and my son stays with her daughter. My mistake was me hiding this from my husband that time she would come back home. Until he saw her come home one night she went out and she came home the next day at 6-7am. He was Angry!! And brought it up to her. She said sorry. But nothing changed. Point here she's so dirty. Shes super irresponsible. When she showers she leaves hair all over the place.her stuff all over the bathroom sink. She leaves Tissue with her snot everywhere. Her clothes clean and dirty always mixed on the floor. In my culture we are taught at a very young age we should always have everything nice and tightly. Laziness is a big No. No. So after 3 almost 4 years of all this. AITA for kicking them out?

So I'm a 40F with systemic lupus causing, among many other issues, ITP. The last few months my Ins Co has refused to cover the needed meds for the ITP so my platelets have been all over the place.
Saturday I took a fall. I fell onto my hands and knees. I hit my lower legs on a couple things (leaving bruises for proof, big and dark enough the ER dr pointed and asked "what the hell happened there?"), but nothing, absolutely NOTHING impacted my chest or ribcage in ANY way!
The same ER dr saw me 2 days in a row as it was a holiday weekend. As soon as I hit my hands and knees it felt like someone had shoved a 3in wide spear into me just below my left breast on the outside. I actually thought I would look down to see something sticking out of me!. It has now widened to at least 6 inches and goes through to my mid back. Everytime I try to breath even halfway deep it feels like someone twists that spear!
The ER dr did x-rays, ekg, urine, and, eventually, a CT w/o contrast as I'm allergic. The 1st day she said I had simply bruised or even cracked 3-5 ribs. The second day she said absolutely NOTHING was wrong with me.
I know my body, and I know something is wrong. I managed through Memorial Day and called my own drs this morning. I called both medical and interventional pain management and my GP/PCP.
I saw interventional pain management, who did a thoracic epidural in hopes it will bring some relief in the next few days, but was honest he had no clue if it would do anything at all or not. I spoke with medical pain management in conjunction with my GP/PCP and they have come to the conclusion it is most likely a blood clot that formed due to the lack of needed medication and was dislodged to my lung during the fall. That's frightening! I noticed she worked very very hard not to used the PE term!
They are running many many tests, and have done what they can to make me comfortable with strict instructions to head straight for ER, preferably via ambulance, where my hematologist is should pain or breathing issues worsen.
I have always been that person whose tests keep coming back completely normal until I'm lying there half or more dead in the ER. I'm scared.

Intro This is a guide for how to use Cisco 8800 series 3pcc/sip phones with Dialpad, based on my own experimentation. So far it's pretty stable, no issues making or receiving calls etc. This is not necessarily a scalable approach since there's no provisioning server and you have to go into each phone's web UI to configure, but someone who is more familiar with cisco cfg files probably could make a configuration out of this.
Known Limitations * Voicemail indicator light won't work * I haven't tried to get shared/bridged lines (aka dialpad executive assistant) working but I am doubtful
Part 1: Getting SIP credentials 1. Go to dialpad admin site > Admin Settings > make sure company/office name is selected in top left dropdown > Office section of nav > Desk Phones 2. Add a user phone > See more options > Other polycom phones 3. Give the phone a name and user 4. Select "The device screen does NOT display Dialpad Activate" 5. Select Next at the firmware requirements warning 6. Select "Older Polycom phone? You may need SIP Instructions." 7. On the SIP credentials screen, select "Need a shorter username" to shorten the username 8. Copy down the details shown somewhere secure.
Part 2: Configure your phone This assumes your phone already has sip/3pcc firmware. Not running 3pcc/sip firmware? See instructions at https://www.cisco.com/c/en/us/products/collateral/collaboration-endpoints/unified-ip-phone-7800-series/guide-c07-742786.html and use the simpler "Cloud Upgrader" if you can.
I recommend MPP firmware version 12.0.2

1. Factory reset your phone by pressing the Gear button > Device Administration > Factory Reset
2. Navigate to the web UI of your phone by typing it's ip address in your browser
3. Switch to Admin mode, then Advanced mode, in the top right corner. You must first change to Admin, then to Advanced.
4. Navigate to Voice > SIP tab, and set NAT Keep Alive Intvl = 25
5. Navigate to Voice > Provisioning tab, and set the following:
6. Provision Enable = No
7. Resync On Reset = No
8. Resync From SIP = No
9. Resync After Upgrade Attempt = No
10. User Configurable Resync = Yes This will prevent your phone(s) from losing settings accidentally after you get them set up.
    
11. Go to Voice > Regional tab, and clear the "Secure Call Indication Tone" field to be blank. Otherwise you'll hear annoying double beeps for the first minute of every call.
    
12. Go to Voice > Ext 1 tab and set the following:
    
13. Line Enable = Yes
    
14. NAT Keep Alive Enable: Yes
    
15. NAT Keep Alive Msg: $NOTIFY
    
16. NAT Keep Alive Dest: $PROXY
    
17. SIP Transport: TLS
    
18. SIP Port: This should be the port number given in the dialpad admin UI near your credentials in part 1, step 8.
    
19. Voice Mail Enable = Yes (so your hardware voicemail button will call it at least, even if the VM light won't ever turn on)
    
20. Secure Call Option = Strict (this is important!)
    
21. Proxy = the Domain value from the dialpad admin portal (part 1, step 8)
    
22. Outbound Proxy = same as prev step
    
23. Register = Yes
    
24. Register Expires = 3600
    
25. Display Name = The user's name of this device (probably doesn't matter)
    
26. Password = password from dialpad admin portal (part 1, step 8)
    
27. User ID = username from dialpad admin portal (part 1 step 8, remember to get the shortened username as the regular one may be too long and truncated which leads to no registration)
    
28. Auth ID = same as User ID
    
29. Preferred Codec = OPUS
    
30. Second Preferred Codec = Unspecified
    
31. G711u Enable = Yes
    
32. G711a Enable = Yes
    
33. OPUS Enable = Yes
    
34. All other codecs, e.g. G729, iLBC, G722, iSAC should be NO
    
35. Encryption Method = AES 128
    
36. Navigate to Voice > Phone tab and set the following:
    
37. Voice Mail Number: the full direct dial number of the user starting with country code
    

All done! When you save all of the above your phone should be working! Make some test calls and DM me if this was helpful/you want to buy me a coffee or need help with something.

Hit my head a bit back (multiple times now-but the big one awhile back really wrecked me) with a tbi and my speech got realllllllll fucked up for awhile (aphasia is fun). I just stopped talking for a solid two months just out of embarrassment alone. My speech has gotten a lot better (thought I still lose words or mix them up a lot). However, I don’t talk in public. My speech gets a whole lot worse and then it just stops. It’s like I physically can’t. I try to say shit and I choke. I can’t force words out. None of my friends or family know (minus an ex and even he thinks it’s just because of aphasia crop ups) because I don’t go places with them on purpose. I order all my shit online wherever I can. Had to go in a gas station today, wrote a note and said I had a sore throat. It was humiliating.
I can generally converse with people one on one or if it’s in my house etc even if they’re a stranger. Which makes me worry if I ever told anyone no one would believe me. I usually communicate via notes when forced to go in public or some limited asl I’m learning.
I’ve cut off anyone from my prior life except a few close personal friends/my chosen family. My tbi made my memory shitty af, I have trouble with placing people or names a lot, or they’re on the wrong timeline (I think I met them in college and I met them later on etc) and lost decent bit of memory depending on times in my life. I want to reconnect with a few of them but I absolutely do not want to explain my issue for fear no one will believe it or get it because I’m decently talkative with those I know (sometimes anyway). It’s funny, I talked via messaging to someone I knew from my past life this past weekend, freaked out and deleted my account because I so don’t want them finding out and telling people we might have mutually known. I figured I wouldn’t ever have to verbally talk to them anyway bc it’s unlikely I’d see them in person, but even the sheer remote possibility just made me panic. As far as everyone from my prior life knows, I’m happy (and I mean I am happier then ever oddly tbh…..just not with this shit). As far as some of the people I know I used to hang with know is that for the most part, oh they had a tbi but they’re cool now.
What’s worse is I work in education. Last job I had was administrative so rarely had to talk. My boss was a shit when I’d lose my words there, but that’s just a thing. I recently got a gig that involves event coordination, some teaching, travel and public presentation and while I thought I’d love it, I realized with my shit that fuck, it’s awful. I choke every time when I have to handle talking to clerks, colleagues from other campuses, etc. I’m known as quiet at work. Had to travel with my students recently and I barely talked to anyone I interacted with on my trip other then the kids (only got 6, and a lot of it is one on one work so that’s a lot easier). My kids know shit is up because they’ve seen me pass notes to people before. Events I mostly do the back end work for (idea building, room layout, decor, etc) and my boss handles the front end so that’s easier but still shit sometimes.
I mentioned my issues in the interview (thankfully one on one) but I didn’t totally say full extent of them because I thought I could handle it. I can talk to my students and coworkers pretty decently. They know I’ll stop in the middle of a sentence if I lose words bc of head stuff, and are very patient with me. However my boss keeps trying to get me to do presentations and not choke. She’s done them for me quite a few times bc I just utterly lost my words at the start. She’s pretty patient with me but says, “oh well you’ll get it eventually and it’s good for you” but Jesus it’s so shitty because I never can.
I feel like I can’t even call it a disability because I know it’s mostly mental. It’s just embarrassing and shameful. I got outside a lot, but I avoid any hobbies for the mostly part that involve interaction. I’ll talk at my comic store but that’s only because I rarely go in when anyone’s there and my ex ran some initial interference when I first started going.
Basically, feel like no one will believe me, feel lost and faking it til I make it at work isn’t going so well.
I had this issue with talking as a kid/teenager (pretty abusive childhood) which no one knows, but got over it in college, Having this resurge as an adult is just horrifying. Did anyone develop this as an adult? Idk, just looking for someone who gets it.

I empathize with Shiv. I think she could have made the same decision regardless of Tom becoming CEO or not. I am someone who grew up with a family consisting of multiple physically verbally abusive narcissists with addiction problems. I have unfortunately been victim and witness to intense abuse. I've also have seen various psychological traits inherited and inherited some myself.
The idea of handing an abusive family member an unfathomable amount of power and influence would be very difficult. Knowing all the hurt and pain they have inflicted on you personally would have to factor in. Also being able to see those negative traits because they exist in you as well.
It could just be spite and immaturity that Shiv didnt want to see her brother in power. But I also think it made her face her genuine feeling about him and possibly her family. When she said the words "I love you, But can't stomach you" that hit me HARD. I've ALWAYS played those words in my head. Wanting to say something like that but stopping myself.
Most of my life I've had to save face and act accordingly around family members. Family members who I know represent choices and values I do not believe in. The struggle these kids have with eachother is so relatable. It's my favorite aspect of this show. They are able to show love and have fun with each other and support one another to a point. But underneath there is the harsh truth. That your brothers and sisters may not have your best interest. That the symbolic family ship you all pretended to believe in is just a place holder until you can escape to a proper future for yourself.
Its also a tug of war because Shiv can also choose to believe in Kendall a little longer and give him the power because it seems like that's what the family should collectively want. It's what they should believe in. Togetherness
But the truth is you don't know if going with family is the right choice. The "right thing" becomes so subjective.
This is a struggle I face constantly with friends and family I am not sure will ever change for the better.

*** The Shadows of Evil are Stirring***
Near the sleepy town of Winterhaven, a ruined keep overlooks a dormant gateway to the otherworldly realm known as the Shadowfell. Though this dark scar on the world has lain dormant for many years, an evil cleric of Orcus, Demon Prince of Undead, seeks to reopen the gate. The only thing preventing the forces of darkness from sweeping across the land is a determined band of heroes. . . .
This is the beginning of an epic adventure that will take you from level 1 to level 30. The Forgotten Realms is where our tale begins, a place of magic and mystery. You will need to gather a group of heroes to aid you in your quest to defeat evil incarnate. But first you must delve into the mysteries of the Shadowfell and bring light to this dark realm of death and decay.
This is a 4e D&D campaign. We'll use OwlBear Rodeo for VTT and discord for voice and video (optional). You will need a stable internet connection, working microphone, and be able install and use the 4e D&D Character Builder (provided to you). Game nights are TBD but will likely be Friday night after 7pm, Saturday afternoon or night after 7pm, or Sunday afternoon. All times will be EST (GMT-4).
As far as players this is what I'm looking for:
1-2 players (Someone had to leave to take care of personal issues).
Reliable - Our hobby requires time and attendance. Everyone misses a game or two. If you no-show twice I'll assume you're not interested and end our gaming relationship.
Ready to Play - Don't spend game nights leveling your character. You'll have plenty time in between sessions to level, buy equipment, and craft items (magic or mundane).
Engaged - TTRPGs are a community endeavor and your presence is needed to make the game better for everyone, including me. If you're having trouble staying focused let me know we'll figure something out.
Fun! - Let's have fun creating some memorable and epic stories. If we're not having fun what's the point?
If you're interested I'll send you a quick Player Questionnaire to complete. After that we'll jump on Discord to talk briefly and see how it goes.
Thanks for getting this far and I hope to hear from you soon.

I want to find the best airline to stick with for specific flights I will be taking every 3 weeks. What all should I be looking at to try and maximize my flight upgrades? This will primarily be between Indianapolis, IN and Anchorage, AK.
Previously I've had Delta Platinum (their second highest tier) flying between Tennessee and Alaska. I was getting first class upgrades less than 20% of the time. I figured being close to Atlanta I had more competition with Delta frequent flyers so I did a status transfer to Alaska Airlines which got me MVP Gold 75k (their highest tier at the time). I can't remember a time when I didn't get first class upgrades.
Has anyone else found that being near a major hub of your preferred airline got you less upgrades? Unless you were their top tier of their elite program?

BS had a ONS with their ex over six years ago and is just telling me about it now. I asked who knew and she said her best friend. She says that she told her that she also told me about it, but I'm not sure I believe that and is just covering for her because she knows that she may not be able to continue that friendship.
Our MC suggested that her friend may not have felt like it was her place to tell me since we had only known each other for a year when the ONS happened. I'm still feeling unsafe around her though. Am I overreacting?

Last year I found out I have a gluten intolerance (not celiac). I cut gluten nearly a year ago with the exception of eating it on a trip to Italy and when I was at a potluck and wasn’t careful. After I cut gluten lots of my symptoms subsided. I was feeling better but not 100% because of other gut issues I’m working on. Well fast forward to a new gut test. My results were discouraging!! My gluten reactivity number went from 209 (last year) to 234. Somehow it’s managed to get worse!!! Has anyone else experienced this? I’m guessing I am getting cross contamination from either eating out (which is minimal), crumbs from shared toaster oven, or am actively consuming something I don’t know has gluten or wheat in it. Has anyone else experienced this?? Seeing the numbers makes me want to just eat gluten because this has been a lot of work.

I 25F have gone on two dates with this guy 26M who I met on Hinge. Our first date went really well, and he told me he wanted to do something again. We texted for a bit and he's extremely slow to respond - I liked him though so I decided to plan a dinner date - I picked the place and made the reservation. I get there last night at 7 and text him that I'm there, and he says he thought we were meeting at 7:30 and that he'll race over. This bothered me slightly but he seemed genuinely apologetic and we all make mistakes. He shows up and barely orders any food, telling me he ate not too long ago since he had to for his workout. This made me a bit uncomfortable but I wasn't not going to eat, so he basically watched me eat my dinner. I then paid the bill, I figured I should since I since I planned it and ate most of the food. We then leave and he hugs me goodbye - we were one block away from my apartment, which he knew, and he didn't offer to walk me home. I know this will get mixed opinions because I could have asked him to walk me home, but it was nighttime and it just really bothered me that he didn't even offer or think to ask. He then texted me afterwards saying he wants to do something again. I'm just conflicted. He didn't do anything wrong, and we had good conversation. So I assume I should see him again, but some of these things just bothered me. If we hang out again I expect him to plan it, but I'm not sure if it's a smart idea for me to go on a third date with him if I'm feeling a little irritated over some of these things? Please answer honestly, am I being too critical?

My SO and I for the past two years have been struggling with a steadily decreasing sex life. At first I didn't mind, I figured that it was natural to have less sex as the relationship goes on, but it got to a serious point about a year ago when at times we would only have sex once a month, and even so it would often just feel lifeless.
Thankfully the low libido wasn't a result of a lack of attraction to me, but was a result of their SSRI prescription. They said they would be willing to decrease their dosage, and I stressed that if their mental health suffered as a result I would understand and encourage if they went back to their original dose.
Fast forward to today, and a few checkup meetings every few months not much has changed. Their depression has been particularly bad recently, and our relationship has suffered as a result. They're planning on moving to a place closer to me next year, and moving in with a friend, which would be a big change as they have been living alone until now. With their depression at this stage I'm worried that the relationship has become more dependent as it's been hard to break them out of depressive behavior (staying in, not reaching out to friends as much, etc).
I'm doing a horrible job at contextualizing, but I'll sum up the current situation: I've been unhappy for a long time now. As it is now, the relationship is not working for either of us, but I care about them so much and want them to love themselves and be happy, and I think that the relationship is making it hard for them to stand on their own so to speak, but of course I could be thinking out of my ass. Our sex life has not improved for a long time. Our social life is alright, it's mainly sitting around watching something or getting food, occasionally hanging with friends, which is fine. Personally we get along great, but the stress of the situation is getting to us both and hangouts feel tense more and more often. They really want to make this work, and I do too, but the idea of spending more months in a passionless relationship is killing me to the point where it's really affecting my livelihood (I'm hanging out with friends less, I'm distracted and unfocused at work, I'm not really spending time on my hobbies).
Three months ago we had a checkup meeting and committed to having another one in 3 months (this week), and I'm thinking of doing it then. I know breaking up, especially if it could end up with us still being friends/in each other's lives down the line (after giving some space of course), would be a healthy thing to do. But with how bad their depression is right now, I feel like I'd be giving up/abandoning them given that they do really care about this issue, and it's killing me. But we're both suffering right now as it is. I don't know what to do.

First time growing... kinda. last time my buddy pretty much just told me what to do. It started 5/9 I transplanted last week and it seems like its been showing mutations like crazy. I have a bigger one thats about a little over a month further along and at no point did it look this crazy. Any and all advice is appreciated! i wont be spending too much more money on these two plants, once i have a place where i can grow more permanently ill be getting into it more seriously.

• added a pic of the bigger one, please dont make fun of my lights lmao this is just a goofy grow for fun... and im having plenty of fun so ill upgrade the lights for the next run. But for now thats what $50 on amazon gets you lol

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Ever since I was 5 I hated seeing all the boys be allowed shirtless and never being able to, puberty terrified me to no end I would stay up crying for hours over the thought I’d be a women some day, I was made fun of, told I was too feminine to be a guy to soft to be a guy I couldn’t be bisexual because “look at you”and that was by ftm guys I was friends with, anytime I act masculine I’m told I look like I’m playing dress up or I get laughed at, I feel like a guy trapped inside a body that doesn’t match up with me at all, but I still have the fear what if I regret it, I’ll see girls and I will get fixated(?) and basically try to become them I’ll try to dress like them speak like them act like them sometimes it will last a day or weeks and then I switch people, I have no idea who I am what I like, if i don’t have a distraction I’ll just start uncontrollably crying and I can’t stop until I’m distracted again, I feel like I’m drowning trying so hard to survive and for what? more pain tomorrow? I hate where I live I hate the people I live with but I can’t leave I can’t get job every-time I get up I nearly black out, I can barely brush my teeth getting up in the morning has become nearly unbearable, everyone I live with is depressed and every time I slightly make myself feel better they drag me right down they are constantly angry constantly hating the world constantly judging people constantly making fun of people they are homophobes racists sexists you name it, I just want peace.

I know this is a long story, but apparently it’s a very unique and rare story, and I’m really crossing my fingers that someone can give me a professional opinion…
I’m a 32F. On 4/22/19 I had RNY gastric bypass surgery. I’ve been very successful with my weight loss, and have never really had any serious complications to speak of. I worked my butt off and went from 256lbs to 120-125lbs and felt great. I maintained that weight loss for 3 years.
About a year ago I started having pain across my upper abdomen, usually after eating. It was mild-moderate, but bearable for the most part. After an abdominal ultrasound and a HIDA scan, my gallbladder came back as being mostly nonfunctional, and had tons of stones, so it needed to be removed.
On 4/12/23 I had my gallbladder removed, and about a day after I came home I started experiencing SEVERE burning from my stomach, up through my chest, almost to my throat. Constantly. 24/7. When I went to my doctor to explain I was still having symptoms, and that they were actually amplified by 10000 post gallbladder removal, he told me that during my surgery/endoscopy following surgery they noticed that the bile from my liver is flowing in the wrong direction. He said there was bile all over the inside of my abdomen in places it shouldn’t be (he’d used a green dye injection before surgery that made the bile light up green). He said this was very rare after gastric bypass surgery, but there was a way to fix it.
On 5/9 I had a second surgery, a small bowel resection and small bowel to small bowel anastomosis to fix my bile reflux. I ended up being hospitalized for 5 days because I had an internal bleed at my new connection site. My hemoglobin dropped down to 7. I was having bloody BMs, I was in so much pain, exhausted, had to have 3 blood platelet transfusions - the entire experience was HORRIBLE. I didn’t eat for 4 days. After several weeks of being unable to eat much at all, I dropped down to 111lbs from a very happy and comfortable 125lbs. I’m still well within my healthy BMI range being only 5’2”, but I don’t like being at this weight at all. I feel and look unhealthy.
Here comes the extra weird part. After all that… the second surgery didn’t even work. At all. As soon as I started eating again the burning feeling returned (even during the 4 days I didn’t eat, I could still kind of feel it but it wasn’t nearly as bad). My doctor said he’s never seen that in his 30 years of practicing medicine in the bariatric field. That this surgery has ALWAYS worked to correct the bile reflux issue. 100% success rate. That he could use the footage from my surgery as a case study because it’s so incredibly rare.
My doctor brought my case to a bariatric conference with other surgeons, solely focused on interesting and unique bariatric cases. The medical team at the conference came up with a theory, and they ended up being correct.
After a second HIDA scan post-gallbladder removal - it turns out that the bile is actually refluxing into my old, remnant stomach. The excluded one no longer being used post gastric bypass. He said it was a significant amount, and that this is practically unheard of. I’ve only been able to find two case studies in existence on the internet… less than 50 people in total between both. In one of the studies they removed the remnant stomach entirely (84% success rate 6+ years post op), and in the other they used a medication called Ursodiol (80% success rate).
I feel like this is an important piece of information, so I’m choosing to include it. During my gallbladder removal, my doctor fixed a small hernia and apparently there was a large piece of omentum (15 × 12 x 2 cm) partially obstructing my bowel that he also corrected and removed. The omentum was adhered to the biliopancreatic limb at the enteroenterostomy. I have a theory that this reflux issue has been happening much longer than I knew, and this piece of omentum was actually helping keep it at bay. That removing it essentially opened up the flood gates. No clue if this is a sound theory, but it’s the only one I have. My doctor couldn’t tell me why my symptoms became so much worst after my gallbladder was removed, but I read this bit in the surgical report and it struck a cord.
My doctor is currently out of town; I’m seeing him again mid-June to talk about my options. From what I remember of our conversation prior, my options will be: try Ursodiol (the side effects are scary; I’m already a very nauseous person and am really struggling with eating. This also feels like a bandaid fix to me), alternatively, reverse my gastric bypass surgery OR remove my remnant stomach.
It’s worth noting that I’ve been on Cholestryamine for about a week and a half and it’s been reducing the burning by about 25-30%, I’d say, which has been nice.
I’m so sorry for the novel. I’m reeeeally hoping there are some liver specialists and/or bariatric surgeons in this sub with knowledge and experience in this area. I guess my question to the physicians here is: if I were your daughter, which option would you recommend to me? Have any of you actually encountered this issue before?? If so, what worked for you and your patient(s)? I’m leaning toward removing my remnant stomach - only because it’s a permanent fix, and there is actually a case study suggesting it’s a pretty effective course of treatment (but the study only had 19 people in it). I can’t find a shred of evidence that shows reversing my bypass would correct this issue, but I’m obviously not a doctor.
I’m feeling pretty broken and alone with this issue. I just want to feel normal again, not feel like my abdomen/chest are on fire, eat like I was eating, maintain my weight where I was happy. I’m just… broken. Any advice, guidance or insight would be SO greatly appreciated.
Full surgical report from the 1st surgery & HIDA Scan report link in comments.

Hello everyone! I had my cast removed Saturday. I was instructed to tape the nose for a month, though I think I might be doing it wrong and not entirely sure how to correct it (I am working on it) - and am worried shape suffered (or will suffer) consequences. Once taped, nose remains squishy at the base and between the eyes, I can push it down. Those first few tapes come out looking a bit wrinkly and in the morning when I remove it I see the red stripes where ends dug themselves into the swelling at the same spot. I am worried as that is where I had a hump and would really prefer not getting it back. Is that possible due to bad taping? It also takes me ages to get it “right”. I place and remove it several times as I was unaware, until just a few minutes ago, that removing it could have negative effects. I might be overthinking it but I’d rather be safe. Can someone offer taping advice and explain the consequences of propeimproper taping?

Hi everybody, below is my list of anime, manga and light novels available for sale. I've tried to address most potential questions below, but feel free to ask me any questions.
Please comment on the thread before sending me a PM or Chat message, especially given the new feedback system in place. Please make sure your shipping address is updated on your PayPal account before sending payment.
No holds for longer than 1-2 days and throw out the first offer if you want to negotiate, though prices are firm for some things.
I won't split any sets unless it's stated otherwise.
I'm a Canadian seller that is willing to ship to most places on this planet. Prices are based in Canadian dollars - the listed USD price is provided as a reference, as FX rates fluctuate slightly every day. (PayPal will automatically convert your USD/local currency to CAD when you pay.) Local pickup and payment can be arranged if you live in the Greater Toronto Area.
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Anime:

Prices include shipping and tracking to Canada & the USA for anime. If you live anywhere else, I will need you to provide me with your postal code and country so I can provide you with a shipping quote.
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Blood-C: The Last Dark (Blu-Ray+DVD, SAVE Edition) - $80 CAD / $61 USD
The Story of Saiunkoku Season 1 Complete Collection (DVD) - $230 CAD / $176 USD

Books:

Shipping costs for single volumes of manga or light novels:
Canada - starts at $11 CAD with tracking, but can increase depending on distance, whether you live in an area that Canada Post deems as rural, and weight. I may consider shipping via Canada Post Lettermail ($7 CAD, no tracking provided) for books at or below $25 CAD if it fits within the size limits. Please provide me with your postal code for an accurate shipping quote.
USA - starts at $11 CAD (around $8.50 USD) including tracking for 1-2 normal sized volumes. Price will increase slightly for 3+ books and depending on weight and insurance.
Europe - starts at $15 CAD for one normal sized volume to most European countries. Please provide me with your postal code for an accurate shipping quote.
Anywhere else - I will need you to provide me with your postal code and country, so I can provide you with a shipping quote.
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**Light Novels:**
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Code Geass Lelouch of the Rebellion Stage 2 - Knight & Stage 3 - Sword - $150 CAD / $114.75 USD (Will Not Split)
The Asterisk War Vol. 3 - $130 CAD / $99.50 USD
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**Manga - Single Volumes:**
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20th Century Boys Vol. 22 - $100 CAD / $77.50 USD
A Drifting Life (spine has creasing) - $40 CAD / $30.50 USD
Biomega Vol. 3 - $75 CAD / $57.50 USD
Black God Vol. 11 - $40 CAD / $30.50 USD
Blood Blockade Battlefront Vol. 2 - $30 CAD / $23 USD
Boys Over Flowers Vol. 19 - $55 CAD / $42 USD
Boys Over Flowers Vol. 24 - $55 CAD / $42 USD
Casino Lily (BL, Sealed) - $40 CAD / $30.50 USD
Cowboy Bebop Vol. 3 - $30 CAD / $23 USD
Cross Game Vol. 6 - $52 CAD / $40 USD
Dr. Slump Vol. 16 - $110 CAD / $84 USD
Freezing Vol. 19-20 - $85 CAD / $65 USD
Haganai: I Don't Have Many Friends Vol. 8 - $45 CAD / $34.50 USD
He's My Only Vampire Vol. 4 - $40 CAD / $30.50 USD
Hey Class President! Vol. 1 (BL, Sealed) - $60 CAD / $46 USD
Highschool of the Dead Vol. 2 - $20 CAD / $15.50 USD
Innocent Bird Vol. 3 (BL) - $85 CAD / $65 USD
Inu x Boku SS Vol. 2 (front cover is bent inwards, but no creasing except for a small one by the X) - $20 CAD / $15.50 USD
Judge Vol. 6 (G3 condition) - $70 CAD / $53.50 USD
Kannazuki no Miko Vol. 1 (Sealed) - $40 CAD / $30.50 USD
Kill la Kill Vol. 1 - $35 CAD / $27 USD
Knights of Sidonia Vol. 15 - $60 CAD / $46 USD
Magika Swordsman and Summoner Vol. 5 (has black remainder mark on the bottom) - $25 CAD / $19.50 USD
Monster Hunter: Flash Hunter Vol. 6 - $75 CAD / $57.50 USD
Nodame Cantabile Vol. 13 - $50 CAD / $38.25 USD
Private Teacher! Vol. 3 (BL) - $183 CAD / $140 USD
Red River Vol. 1 - $25 CAD / $19 USD
Stay Close to Me - $70 CAD / $53.50 USD
Strike the Blood Vol. 6 - $50 CAD / $38.25 USD
Sunshine Sketch Vol. 6 - $95 CAD / $72.50 USD
The Testament of Sister New Devil Storm! Vol. 3 - $85 CAD / $65 USD
This Ugly Yet Beautiful World Vol. 1 - $40 CAD / $30.50 USD
To Love-Ru Vol. 5-6 - $60 CAD / $46 USD
Tokyo Babylon Omnibus Vol. 1 (G2-3 condition) - $35 CAD / $27 USD
Yowamushi Pedal Vol. 6 - $95 CAD / $72.50 USD
Yu-Gi-Oh! Millennium World Vol. 1 - $20 CAD / $15.50 USD
**Manga - Sets:**
Prices for sets include shipping and tracking to Canada and the USA. Other countries, please inquire for a shipping quote. Sets will not be split up unless stated otherwise!
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Blood Blockade Battlefront Vol. 1-3 & 5-7 - $600 CAD / $459 CAD
Breath Vol. 1-5 (BL, Complete Series) - $500 CAD / $382.50 USD
Eyeshield 21 Vol. 1-37 (Complete Series, Vol. 21-22 are sealed) - $1300 CAD / $995 USD
Fruits Basket Vol. 16 & 18-21 - $95 CAD / $72.50 USD, Vol. 16 available separately for $25 CAD / $19 USD including shipping to Canada and the USA
Gunsmith Cats Revised Edition Vol. 1-4 and Gunsmith Cats Burst Vol. 1-5 (Complete Series) - $750 CAD / $574 USD
Hey Class President! Vol. 1-2 - $185 CAD / $141.50 USD
Kamichama Karin Vol. 1-7 (Complete Series, Vol. 1, 4 & 6 have faded spines) - $65 CAD / $49.50 USD to the USA, $70 CAD to Canada
Love Com (Lovely Complex) Vol. 1-15 - $690 CAD / $528 USD
Madness Vol. 1-2 (BL, Complete Series) - $40 CAD / $30.50 USD
Monster Vol. 4-6 (singles) - $95 CAD / $72.50 USD
Monster Vol. 4-6, 12 and 15 (singles) - $135 CAD / $103.25 USD; Vol. 12 separately is $50 CAD / $38.25 USD including shipping to Canada and the USA; Vol. 15 separately is $50 CAD / $38.25 USD including shipping to Canada and the USA
Please Tell Me! Galko-chan Vol. 1-2 - $115 CAD / $89 USD
Rabbit Man, Tiger Man Vol. 1-2 (BL) - $195 CAD / $149 USD
Tegami Bachi Vol. 2-7 - $95 CAD / $72.50 USD
The Big O Vol. 1-6 (Complete Series) - $217 CAD / $160 USD
Tokyo Babylon omnibus Vol. 1-2 (Dark Horse release) - $175 CAD / $134 USD (separate Vol. 1 available)
Toriko Vol. 1-6 (Vol. 2 is in G3 condition) - $120 CAD / $92 USD
Triage X Vol. 1-11 (Vol. 11 is Sealed) - $550 CAD / $421 USD)
xxxHolic Vol. 1-16 & 18-19 - $350 CAD / $268 USD