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2013.08.05 22:27 dp85 OSHA

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2018.11.11 04:13 Dudecalion The 13 Days of Creepmas!

Upset at the continuing intrusion of Christmas on our beloved holiday? Nothing worse than going into a store to buy Halloween decorations and see they've been pushed aside to make room for Santa and his elves. How can you celebrate Creepmas? By putting a spooky twist on all things Christmas during the first 13 days of December. Leave your Halloween decorations up until then, watch scary Christmas movies, sacrifice a snowman, the only limit is your imagination. Spook on my hallowfiends. Spook on.

2021.11.11 20:17 SupremoZanne Christmas Bathroom

/TruckStopBathroom: Christmas Edition

2023.05.31 13:19 SylvieSerene Why does this hatred exist towards people who speak hindi?

Today my uncle was driving and a family of bengalis were driving by too so it so happened that they blocked the road by driving in an awkward position in an already busy road so my uncle tried to drive past him since his daughter needs to buy her wedding accessories and the shop closes by 6 PM but this for some reason infuriated the car of the other family and they started yelling curses and swears that they were in a hurry and we were wasting their time. My uncle decided to be calm about it and tried to drive back but in hindi said "It will take a few minutes since the passage is narrow as it is, please wait" And the other car retaliated for no reason in broken hindi saying "Go back to your bihari village from where you came from cuz clearly you don't have a single idea on how the road works here"
And this pissed my uncle off enough that they both fell in argument which ended up in a screaming match and almost ended in a fist fight and lasted for over half an hour and jammed the whole place. Though police didn't get involved, it does make me think....why does hatred towards hindi speaking ppl is so rampant in West bengal? Ppl effectively start looking you as a downcast or backward once you say hindi is your first language? Even in school, ppl start treating you like some alien once you reveal you are non bengali. You get good grades in hindi, they are like "We didn't get that cuz we aren't non bengali like you" are bengali aren't you? I don't see you scoring top notch marks in bengali, your native tongue... Ethnicity doesn't define your academics. A lot of my new friends directly say "I hate non bengalis. They are so backward and filthy. I would never wanna be friends with one" in front of me (they don't know about me being one and now that ik about their thinking, obv I won't reveal)
Why do bengali ppl do look down upon who aren't? If we all live in the same state why discriminate and differentiate others? Why can't we exactly live in peace together? It's literally a difference of language and maybe in ancestral point of origin but now that we aren't in a same state....why can't we accept our differences? I have never seen many ppl from my ethnicity shit upon bengalis...why do bengalis treat themselves as a superior race?
Why do we have to constantly lie about being a bengali just to avoid being hated for who we are ??
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2023.05.31 13:18 worker37 Reasonable methods for tapering?

Current situation: taking anywhere from zero to 1.0 mg Lorazepam (Ativan) daily, sometimes in the middle of the night, other times during the day if I'm having a particularly rough (anxious) day, for the past 18 months.
It's unclear to me how much tolerance/dependence I've developed. Nonetheless, I'd like to taper off.
Question: is it possible to cut pills (I have 1.0 mg Lorazepam tablets) or dissolve in liquid instead of using Ashton? I'm very precise and scientific about things, e.g. have a scale for weighing small amounts and know how to mix with water. But I'm not sure about the general advisability of these non-Ashton approaches, nor am I sure about whether storing leftover lorazepam after crushing or dissolving in water will alter its potency (through oxidation or other degradation).
(I could ask my psychiatrist for diazepam, but not sure he'll react well this plan, and for a couple reasons I'd prefer not to switch providers at this time.)
Cheers to everyone here on this journey.
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2023.05.31 13:18 Pristine_Pop_4079 How many readings should one complete in one year??

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2023.05.31 13:18 Technovids Data Visualization Technovids

Data Visualizations.
Data Visualization is a representation of data and information in graphical form. custom uses visual studios like maps, bars, charts, and graphs, tools in Data Visualization help in forming a view of the data in the most modernized way and follow the Trends, Outliners, and patterns in the data.
brings help in communicating the data with the help of an image. With the evolution of Big Data, we have to communicate with the data in the most effective way to learn the pattern and follow the Trend. Machine Learning helps it easy to establish the predictive analysis model, which interns help in the visualization of the data.
Why do we need Data Visualization?
Visual information about Data helps in identifying Patterns and Trends than going through the different sheets and huge Data information. The important function of Data Analysis is to gain insight into Data which is more valuable when the data is visualized. Charts, Graphs, and pattern help in communicating the data in a much more simple way to find the Trend.
Visual representation is the individual graph of the true finding of Data through a representable format like a Graph, Map, and Charts.
Let us look through the Data Visualization Charts...
Let us look through the different types of data visualization representation that help in visualizing the data.
Line charts
The line chart is the visual representation of the data where the X-axis represents the “Time period” while the y-axis represents “quantity”. So with the help of this representation, you can represent your company sales for the period of year or month in a visual format.
Bar Chart.
Bar Chart also represents the data for the change in Time. As a company, you can represent or compare your data with the previous year's data in the Bar format.
Scatter Plot
This time of Visualization correlates the data, through this, you can point the data in a certain way so that there is a relationship established between them.
Pie Chart
This type of visualization helps in representing the percentage of the data because it shows each piece of information as a whole. So with the help of this, you can break down your data in the percentage format with proper proportion.
This deals with the business in correlation with different locations related to a map. Like if you want to know the date of purchase a customer made in different states of India, then you can easily find it with this kind of representation which helps in making the business effective.
Bubble charts
It is the type of visualization where data is represented in the form of a Bubble, which defines a meaning placed on the axis. So all data do not fit in this type of representation.
Let’s look through the courses for Data Visualization.
Power BI
Power BI helps Business Analysts, Business Intelligence Managers, Statisticians & Analysts, Project Managers, and Data scientists to visualize and share insights from their organizations’ data. It provides interactive visualizations with self-service business intelligence capabilities, where end users can create reports and dashboards by themselves, without having to depend on any information from Reporting staff or database administrator.
The important aspect that our clients face is sharing news, especially when they want to direct themselves to the company dashboard. Conventionally, data sharing was limited to the inconvenient nature of emailing Excel reports or involved licensed software. Perhaps if you use Power BI then you can share reports easily live on any web page, this is a great revolution itself. So if you want simple & large sharing, then yes Power BI will do wonders.
Technovids provides the most comprehensive and updated Power BI Training in Bangalore. Our Expert Trainer has designed Power BI Training Content as per the Industry standard, so that soon after completing your course, you will be capable to attend an interview for most the job related to Power BI Business Intelligence and Data Visualization Skills in different industries like Analytics, Banking, Retail, FMCG, Human Resource, etc. If you want to make your career as a Business Intelligence professional then Power BI Course is the Right Choice, Power BI is one of the most popular BI/ETL tools today. The Power BI course will give a complete understanding of the Business Intelligence application and how to build it by using tools like Power BI.
Want to know more >> Power BI Online Training
If you feel that spending your entire day on data visualization and analysis is worth it? If you deny, then start using the data visualization tool Tableau, which will help you to complete your task in a short of a minute. If you belong to IT, then you might understand the pain to get a report and find someone with the required skills thus pending different tasks. But the introduction of Tableau has made analytics easier with the help of tools you can analyze millions of data from a source. Thus helping in summarizing all your findings into simple reports. The best aspect is that you don’t require any programming language. Don’t believe me? Check yourself out.
Tableau comes with many Visualization options to make the user feel confident while taking the decision and enhance business productivity. You can easily customize the data style, filter, sort, and layout without loading it to Excel. Tableau helps in sharing queries with other users have become a lot easier and can be used in other workbooks.
Technovids provides live instructor-led online training with its well-experienced trainers from the industry with more than 10+ years of work experience. You get lifetime access to your training recording, study material & help in preparing/updating your resume, also get job assistance.
Want to know more >> Tableau Online Training
In the current world, every organization depends upon taking a data-driven decision. In order to make a data-driven decision data needs to be analyzed to identify the factor which influences the organization. And to make things easy here comes QlikView, with its simple drag-and-drop interface, QlikView optimized sequel queries at the backhand to fetch the data from your database in desired ways.

QlikView is a Business Intelligence (BI) / data visualization tool. It is mainly used for building dashboards(reporting) and data visualizations using the organization’s data, which is useful in inferring better data insights, so in crucial decision-making. More than 24,000 organizations worldwide have enabled their users to easily consolidate, search, and visually analyze all their data for unprecedented business insight using QlikView's simplicity. It has an in-memory data processing feature that stores the data in the form of reports which is available for immediate exploration by multiple users. We can create, read, write, and modify these Reports. It can read data from numerous sources including files and relational databases. We can also integrate data by combining data from various sources into one QlikView analysis document.
QlikView automatically recognizes the relationship between each piece of data that is present in a dataset. Users need not preconfigured the relationship between different data entities. As the data is held in memory, calculations are done on the fly. No need for storing pre-calculated aggregate values. QlikView heavily uses a data dictionary. Only essential bits of data in memory are required for any analysis. This tool reduces the manual effort in making the reports and also once we have set the design for a particular report we have the option to reuse the same report by reloading the data/ updating the data.

For delivering any Training it is obvious that Trainer must have Sound knowledge of the Subject and also should adopt excellent training Methodology so that he/she can reach to learner’s expectations.
We at Technovids choose the handpicked QlikView Trainers. All trainers are good at All advanced concepts of BI and QlikView Data Visualization and also have 8-10 years of working experience in the industry.

Want to know more >> QlikView Online training

Spotfire is a powerful analytics tool in today’s market that helps every individual to visualize their data and information in the most effective manner. With built-in, AI features everyone can be built their data insight with the help of search and recommendations offered by Spotfire.
It is the fastest and simple analytics tool where you can build, explore and visualize your data finding with its dashboards and point-and-click exploration. It has a built-in predictive model to classify, cluster, and forecast your data. Spotfire provides real-time analysis which pushes data to Spotfire to create fresh data visuals and helps in taking quick and urgent business decisions.
Some of the benefits of Spotfire-
• Analyse the data as you want to.
• Get data insights with the help of AI technology.
• Spotfire helps in solving tough problems.
• Important benefits are that it uses attractive Templates and Accelerators.
• It also helps in connecting remotely to visualize more data effectively.
Spotfire is one of the most competitive data visualization products which is growing vertically day by day.
As a part of this course, we prepare participants with all the basic concepts of the tool and prepare them to create the desired dashboard. The core of this training is also to prepare participants to understand what particular graph needs to be used in which situation. The session would be a mix of theory and hands-on, Participants can also bring their data and can take assistance from the trainer to get the desired visualization.
Want to know more >> Spotfire Online Training
The effective Visualisation of data is very important for the business, without its important insights and data information can be lost. Technovids helps every individual to grasp important and crucial knowledge in Data Visualization through its comprehensive training methodology.
If you want your organization to get better and more effective data through data visualization which inters make a good understanding of the business value and bring more profit for the organization, then get trained today with experience Faculty and get hands-on experience with these new tools.
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2023.05.31 13:18 lifemedicalsupply1 Transform Your Living Space with Power Lift Recliners

Are you tired of the same old furniture in your living room? Do you dream of a comfortable and convenient seating option that can transform your living space? Look no further than power lift recliners! These innovative pieces of furniture not only provide exceptional comfort but also offer the added benefit of power lift functionality. In this article, we will explore how power lift recliners in McAllen, TX can truly transform your living space and enhance your overall lifestyle.

Why Choose Power Lift Recliners?

Power lift recliners are more than just ordinary chairs. They are designed with advanced features that make them the perfect addition to any living room. Here are some compelling reasons why you should consider incorporating power lift recliners into your home:
  1. Enhanced Comfort: Power lift recliners are built for ultimate comfort. With their plush cushioning, ergonomic design, and adjustable reclining positions, these chairs offer a luxurious seating experience.
  2. Convenience: The power lift feature allows you to effortlessly adjust the recliner's position with just the push of a button. This makes it easier for individuals with mobility issues or physical limitations to find the most comfortable seating position.
  3. Health Benefits: Power lift recliners promote better blood circulation and relieve pressure on your joints and muscles. The ability to elevate your legs can help reduce swelling and alleviate discomfort.
  4. Versatility: Power lift recliners come in a wide range of styles and designs to suit various home decor preferences. Whether you prefer a sleek modern look or a classic traditional style, there is a power lift recliner that will complement your existing furniture.
  5. Space-Saving: Unlike traditional recliners that require ample space behind them for reclining, power lift recliners can be placed close to the wall, saving valuable floor space in your living room.
  6. Independence: The power lift functionality empowers individuals with mobility challenges to maintain their independence. With the touch of a button, they can easily transition from sitting to standing without assistance.

Transform Your Living Space

With power lift recliners, you can transform your living space into a cozy and functional haven. Let's explore some ways these remarkable pieces of furniture can elevate your home:
1. Create a Relaxation Corner
Transform a corner of your living room into a dedicated relaxation zone with a power lift recliner as the centerpiece. Add a side table and a soft lighting fixture to create a serene space where you can unwind after a long day.
2. Maximize Comfort with Customization
Power lift recliners offer various customization options to enhance your comfort. From adjustable headrests and lumbar support to heating and massage features, you can personalize your recliner to meet your specific needs.
3. Optimize the TV Viewing Experience
Power lift recliners are perfect for creating an optimal TV viewing experience. Their reclining capabilities allow you to find the perfect angle for enjoying your favorite shows or movies, while the built-in power lift feature enables you to easily get up for snacks during commercial breaks.
4. Accommodate Guests with Ease
When hosting friends or family, power lift recliners can provide extra seating without compromising on comfort. Guests will appreciate the convenience of the power lift functionality, especially those who may have difficulty sitting or standing for extended periods.
5.Embrace Style and Elegance
Gone are the days when recliners were bulky eyesores. Modern power lift recliners are designed to seamlessly blend with your existing furniture and decor. Choose from a variety of upholstery options and sleek designs to add a touch of style and elegance to your living space.
6. Improve Sleep Quality
Power lift recliners are not limited to daytime use. They can also be a game-changer when it comes to improving your sleep quality. With their adjustable positions and added features like heating and massage, power lift recliners provide a comfortable and supportive surface for a restful night's sleep. Whether you have trouble falling asleep or need to elevate your legs for better circulation, these recliners can help you achieve a more peaceful slumber.
7.Enhance Bonding Time
A power lift recliner can be the perfect spot for quality bonding time with loved ones. Whether it's snuggling up with your partner for a movie night or reading bedtime stories to your children, the cozy and inviting nature of power lift recliners creates a welcoming space for shared experiences and precious moments.
8.Cater to Special Needs
Power lift recliners are particularly beneficial for individuals with special needs or limited mobility. The power lift feature allows them to comfortably transition from sitting to standing, promoting independence and reducing the risk of falls or injuries. These recliners can provide a sense of freedom and confidence for individuals who require assistance with mobility.
10. Support Post-Surgery Recovery
If you or a loved one is recovering from surgery or dealing with a medical condition, power lift recliners can be a valuable asset. Their ability to elevate the legs and provide customizable positioning helps reduce strain on the body, aiding in the healing process. The convenience of the power lift mechanism also eliminates the need for excessive exertion when getting up or sitting down, facilitating a smoother recovery experience.
11. Personalize Your Power Lift Recliner
With the wide range of options available, you can personalize your power lift recliner to fit your preferences and needs. Consider additional features like USB ports for charging devices, cup holders for convenience, or even built-in speakers for an immersive audio experience. Make your power lift recliner a reflection of your unique style and personality.
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2023.05.31 13:18 Dancingbeavers Advice Appreciated Just Starting Out

I am 33 and wanting to learn to play. At the moment I am aiming for 30 minutes of daily practice:
1) Chord Changes D/A/E /// G/C /// Am/Em (really only doing one of three changes per day)
2) Spider Walk at the start and the beginning
3a) I would like to add Justin Guitar once a week or something similar but how do you guys decide when you're ready for the next lesson?
3b) When I am not doing the above lesson I would like to try my hand at some songs such as Enter Sandman, or Paranoid

Is there anything else you guys would recommend?
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2023.05.31 13:18 Adventurous_Field_58 June 3 - Need to reach Gatwick Airport

TL, DR: Need to reach Gatwick Airport on June 3 when there is a major Rail strike.
Hi All,
I need to reach Gatwick Airport on June 3 and it looks very difficult because Gatwick Express, Thameslink and other rail services are on strike that day.
I am currently staying in Canning town and taking a cab to the airport and back would be very expensive.
I checked the national express coach tickets and they are as high as £50 for a single journey and selling out fast.
Can anyone suggest on how I can reach the airport using public transport?
Any help is welcome. Thank you!
(In case this should be posted on another sub, please let me know)
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2023.05.31 13:18 TheDro2911 Feels like I'm doing something wrong

I'm a new homeowner this year and the house came with a one year-old 18x36' inground pool. Moving in and getting acclimated to the house has not been great. The previous homeowners may be the worst people I've never met: filthy, leaving so many issues behind and informing us of none of them. We've been working through it.
I had the pool opened professionally last week and have been hoping that since it's only a year old, they couldn't have done much damage. When the guys opened it, they showed me the systems and seemed to think everything was working right. I've been running the filter at least 12 hours a day, I got the water tested a few days after opening and added the additional chemicals. There was a TON of organic debris in the bottom, so I've been cleaning with the hand skimmer and clearing the filter baskets constantly. I've already ordered a vacuum but waiting for it to arrive still. The water was getting better in color, still just cloudy, the guy at the pool store assured me to just keep running the filter and let it dry it's job.
I was having an issue where the filter didn't seem to backwash properly, and I FINALLY got it to backwash and rinse yesterday, and after I did that, the pump is no longer circulating water. I tried to manually prime it with my hose but no matter how much water I put down the intake tubes, they didn't fill up. and I didn't want to run it dry, so now the filter's been off since yesterday afternoon, so I feel like I'm going to lose the progress I've made on the water quality.
I've been trying to learn everything I can and not miss steps, it just feels like something larger is wrong if the filter isn't pulling water. The water level seems good on the pool, it's consistently been halfway up the skimmer line. And it was running fine for multiple days right up until I backwashed.
What could I be missing?
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2023.05.31 13:18 Implement-Plastic Apparently the US only has downsides and no advantages over the EU whatsoever

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2023.05.31 13:18 Capable_Log_3683 [24F] [24M] Is this relationship going to last?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1.5 years and we’ve both met our families on a number of occasions.
I want to get married and settle down by my late 20s and have kids one day, so I think about marriage a lot and if my boyfriend and I will ever get married. If he were to propose right now, I would say yes. The thing is though, my boyfriend has never legitimately thought about marriage. He has said in the past that he’s scared to commit and that’s why we put off moving in together. I heard somewhere that men usually know if they want to marry their partner by 2 years. I’m sure it differs for everyone but my boyfriend has never thought about marrying me and I don’t know if he ever will. He says he thinks its too soon right now and he has thoughts about how I would be a good wife, but not his wife apparently.
I feel like his parents divorce when he was a kid had some affect on his decision of not considering marriage. I could be wrong of course. I just feel like if he thinks 1.5 yrs is too soon to think about marriage, will he ever think it’s a good time to consider marriage? I don’t know and I don’t think so. I don’t know if I should keep dating someone who doesn’t know if they want to marry me or not because marriage is a dream of mine. Is it worth waiting for?
tl;dr: boyfriend has never considered marriage and never thought about marrying me in our 1.5yrs of dating. He thinks it’s too soon but he does think I would make a good wife. Will he ever think about marrying me or is this relationship over?
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2023.05.31 13:18 Prudent-Instruction4 Looking for the perfect house mod (SSE)

Well, hi. After a few days searching everywhere and testing various house mods, I'm finally desperate and asking for help..
So, I've been searching for THE player home, one with all I need as a warrior and collector (daedric artifacts displays, unique items displays, etc), an overprotective mother and friend (6 beds for kids and a lot of space for followers + everything they might need like kitchen and shower maybe), AND as a daedric disciple and vampire matron (hidden room, cave, coffin, cage for thralls..).
In fact, I'm searching for a mix between these mods :
Winterberry chateau (for home decoration and family friendly place) My issue with it is the lacking of hidden room, cages for thralls, and vampire place. Hassildor (for vampire cluttery) This one is gorgeous but doesn't have enough space for all my followers and family, plus the exterior isn't exactly what I need. Blackthorn (for various homes, places, inn, exterior, etc) This one could be perfect but I HATE the rift and this zone is a FPS killer for my computer, so I can't live here with every NPC I need (plus I don't really like the display room in -1 floor of manor).
On LE I found the perfect match which was Lakeview Manor Evolution but it hasn't been ported yet to SE. If anyone knows how to port it I would give it a try !
I tested A LOT of player homes but none seems to have everything I want, and I don't think I'll ever be able to create it myself..
Sooo if someone knows a hidden mod which seems to match all of this, I will be infinitely thankful!
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2023.05.31 13:17 audmor01 My step mother thought I broke her mug on purpose.

Recently my step mother expressed to me how difficult I made her life when my dad and my brother and I moved in with her when I was 13, I can’t help but feel guilty for it. But then I remember that one evening when I was washing dishes and a mug slipped out of my hands and shattered, and the next day my dad pulled me aside and told me how important it was to treat my step mother with respect lest we be made homeless. Cue a week long silent treatment from her as well. To this day (9 years later), she insists that I broke her favorite mug because I was mad at her. I just stumbled upon this sub, but I think I might belong here.
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2023.05.31 13:17 brokenwings_1726 Just failed an important exam...

Well, the exam closed about 40 minutes ago, and with it, any hope I had of graduating this year. I need to pass all my modules to graduate, and with this result, there's no way it happens. Despite revising and trying to familiarise myself with exam-style questions as best as I could, I blanked out and panicked in the real thing. Again. I didn't finish the paper, which means at most, I can get 72%, and that's not taking into account me getting stuff wrong (even questions I thought were easier).
The worst part is the hope, I think. It's the human instinct to just believe things will get better. That's what does it for me. I keep deluding myself into thinking if I try hard enough, I can do it. I don't know how many times I need to be proven wrong to finally rid myself of the last vestige of irrational hope I have for my life chances. This has already happened to me so many times, and still, I allow people to goad me into thinking I can do it.
"Oh don't worry, you know more than you think!"
"Everything will be okay"
"Grades don't make the person"
It's all bullshit.
I could write more but I am fucking exhausted.
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2023.05.31 13:17 Ok-Problem1726 hero fragments in starlight shop

Would just like to ask, as the title states, is the conversion of starlight points to hero fragments in the shop unlimited? Or is there a limit as to how many hero fragments to acquire, if so, how many would it be? Thank you
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2023.05.31 13:17 Academic_Frosting942 Problem with therapy

It would have helped if therapists opened my eyes to the abusive dynamics in my life, but this rarely happened. I grew up in a toxic family system, and despite my frustrations I expressed in therapy, they did not hear my story and advocate for me. I was treated like why am I still bothered by this, while not knowing why I still felt so depressed/anxious/stressed.
CBT asked me if it was really abuse or was I choosing to see it that way. I tried on many different pairs of rose-colored lenses, and while that may have temporarily lifted my rage at being mistreated, it was replaced with GUILT. I still felt bad, but now I questioned if it was my fault for making an abusive persons life more difficult. This is victim blaming 101. I did not deserve to be treated as such, it was wrong. I had every right to feel rageful anger at being mistreated. Holding a person accountable is not just simply projection, resentment, or denial/refusal to look at my own problems. It’s simply accountability.
Trauma-informed therapy told me to experience the emotions of being traumatized. Um, okay. I did that and by feeling my emotions somatically, it just reminded me of how I originally felt, that the abuse was wrong, and there was nothing wrong with me. That’s ironically the exact validation I was seeking from therapy. I shared my issues to therapists because my entire family system invalidated and gaslit me, so I sought this form of external help. I got reinforcement over the truth of what I experienced in the past, but telling myself that “life is safe now” did not work because it’s simply not true. Abusive people are out there, that’s reality. I asked for help with what should I do if I encounter people like that all over again, and I was halted because “that’s not happening right now.” But it was and it did. I needed more than to just process the injustices of the past. I wanted to defend myself and stop being abused in the future. And to not feel bad about that.
Turns out that’s called BOUNDARIES and stuff like that. But my trauma-informed therapist only had me treat my emotions. Anytime I felt anything strongly, like being really irritated or angry at some unfairness, I was told I was being “reactivated” and going into a cptsd response, and I was supposed to try and re-regulate to avoid 4F acting out. Well, I sorta believe differently now: My emotions did not cause my trauma, my emotions only alerted me to it. Part of CPTSD is the lack of adequate protection going forward, that’s why you still don’t feel safe. That’s why you try to protect yourself with anxiety and hypervigilance. Thank you!!
So if I was gonna stop living in so much constant fear, what was the next step I needed? Just telling myself the lie that “I am safe here in the present” felt wrong and make me feel like my natural anxiety was a sign that I had failed to heal? “Grounding” myself is not the same as building practical skills to make myself safe. I got this knowledge from other adult survivors who had similar family experiences as me, and I am so grateful that they saw me and heard me. I enforced my boundaries and watched as people amped up their reactions and abuse attempts, but I held fast. I showed myself that no matter how people react around me, I’m not gonna fawn to them, I’m not giving in, I’m not compromising my boundaries all over again. If I have to run then I will, if I have to fight then I’m not going down, and I won’t guilt trip myself when it all blows over. The first time I did this successfully my anxiety reduced nearly completely because I proved to myself that id fight to keep myself safe. To this day I do not do that silly “I’m safe” affirmation, it just does not honor me or my experiences.
I started therapy because I was seeking many answers and I don’t think the therapists felt it was their job to provide that. I mean, I think they could, and so like, WHY DIDNT THEY, it would help a lot of people, I found it so confusing that many TRAINED psychologists just did not tell me that bad stuff that happened to me was wrong. Ive been told instead its not about being right or wrong 🙃. Of all the times I recounted abusive, unfair situations, the few that got resolved were the ones where they admitted “yeah they had absolutely no right to say that to you,” or “that should not have happened.” Instead of the blank stare and then asking me about MY part in that, which I think we get how that becomes damaging.
My issue with therapy was: they are trained to deal with YOU, alone, and your emotions, only. So by that very process, it gets you thinking about how you’re choosing to have a problem with stuff. It doesn’t seem like a very great setup to help someone get educated on and get free of abusive situations. Oh sure I left therapy well aware of how SAD and angry my life made me feel. But what did I have to work with?
Therapy inherently tells you to work on your emotions to fix your problems. I really thought that by feeling less distressed, I’d somehow become less traumatized. But my emotions were there for a reason, abuse was happening all around me. My problem WASN’T how distressed I felt about being abused. I did not need to medicate that away. I didnt need to process away my current reactions to active situations.
I needed education on abuse to make sense of what I had experienced, and therapy did not provide that. I found that on the internet and from other survivors. Then I instantaneously stopped hating myself for the way that someone else was treating me. THIS was why “It wasn’t my fault.” Because it wasn’t. I didn’t need to treat depression, I was depressed because of the people around me treating me like shit.
No one in my life told me that the abuse was wrong. Even when I explained. I was told I misinterpreted things. Or I was told to just leave, I wasn’t affirmed that yeah that is fucked up.
The times in my life I HAVE received affirmation, mostly from friends or peers btw, those times have passed in my psyche. They did not become trauma responses. Because my issue was resolved. I did not have to bring these up in therapy because there was no lasting issue. I experienced a life stressor and I adapted to believe in myself more and I felt defended by my friend group. I think that is resilience. And a therapist could provide that if no one else has, but in my case they often miss this and wonder why you’re still upset over it.
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2023.05.31 13:17 yourdoppelganger_ Oathtaking

Hello po. May few questions lang po ako re oathtaking. Sana po may makasagot.
  1. After ilang days/weeks/months ?
  2. Ano po dapat ang isuot?
  3. How much po ang dapat iprepare?
  4. Need po ba may kasama or pwede solo lang?
Thank you so much po.
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2023.05.31 13:17 vengeful_vv How many citizenships can I have as an Aussie born?

I was born in Aus and still live here but I wanna go for my NZ/Scottish citizenship would I be able to have all 3 if I got them approved the reason I ask this is because the Australian Department of home affairs says this

A dual citizen is a person who is a citizen of 2 or more countries. You become a dual citizen if you: are an Australian citizen, are granted citizenship of another country and don't lose your Australia citizenship, or remain a citizen of another country and become an Australian citizen Australia allows a person to have dual citizenship.
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2023.05.31 13:17 DoubleNeedleworker98 Another piece, "this time no pen." I felt time was short today also. The dirt look is because of pencil enhancing, unfortunately that includes smudges too, but as always the night owl life calls to me, so many don't see my works till morning at best, but this is when my passion is at its peak....

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2023.05.31 13:17 nyawwr Catching Feelings at Work

I’ve been having a crush with someone from work. I am an intern (F20) and I’m leaving soon. He’s from the same team (M27), but we don’t work much together because we have different roles.
I think he doesn’t like me because he’s never flirted with me or be direct with me like that. We talk a lot, we chat outside work almost every day, sharing reels together, talking about our days. But that’s probably normal for friends. We used to wait for each other and go home from work together, which was how we got close. Sometimes after work, we would call and “work” until like 6-7 (our work is hybrid). But I think that’s because he doesn’t have anything much to do. We also went out couple times when we were in the area at the same time. So I guess spending time with him made my feelings grow, and I kept on letting it grow. And it doesn’t really help that he’s so attentive of me, like he remembers things I’ve mentioned back back, he also notices small things about me, worries about me. But I think that’s just because how he is as a person, nice and attentive. All of this have been going on for the past 4 months.
On the other side, he also does things that makes me think that he doesn’t like me that way. He’s been responding dryly these days and we’re not chatting as often. He’s also mentioned to our friend office group that he’s ready for marriage and stuff.
Honestly, it’s my fault for catching feelings, for letting my feelings grow, for hoping for something that probably is not going to work out. I’m quite sure he doesn’t like me because why won’t he make a move on me then? He probably thinks of me just as a close friend, and so his actions are justifiable. Moreover, we are from different cultures, different religions, huge age gap, so it’s going to be hard anyways.
I want to tell him that I like him… It’s just we’ve gotten really close and I don’t want to lose him as a friend and I’m scared of rejection. What should I do?
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2023.05.31 13:17 anotherloss- How many hours do you recommend for a refresher course ?

I haven’t driven since 2015 and early 2016 feels knowledge is fading and want to regain confidence on the road
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2023.05.31 13:17 DanteCrailman How Many are There!?

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2023.05.31 13:17 Neither_Union_3669 Fragomen Summer Internship

I'm a first-year law student that applied for the Fragomen Summer Internship and was invited for an assessment day post-interview. I couldn't find many details online regarding this internship or whether it's paid or not. The application did not explicitly mention it being paid, so I assumed it is unpaid. If anyone has worked at Fragomen or has any insight regarding their internships, could you please share your experience?
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